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Blue_Blake
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auntblabby
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Blue_Blake
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19 Mar 2021, 10:01 pm
20 Mar 2021, 6:02 pm
r00tb33r wrote:
I despise the "kiss the boo-boo" threads in The Heaven.
So don't go there?It's really very easy; WP is a big place and your contributions would be welcomed in other forums I'm sure. (BTW, it's "The Haven").
Also, what you perceive as help is... your perception of help. Sometimes just knowing that someone else has also experienced some painful or difficult event can help.
20 Mar 2021, 6:43 pm
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20 Mar 2021, 7:05 pm
PhosphorusDecree wrote:
It certainly wasn't dominated by the left 2 years ago. Wall-to-wall alt-right flamebait, with all the flamer's little mates waiting in line to kick the crap out of anyone who took the bait. A lot of those people seem to have either toned it down or moved elsewhere since then.
I'm sure there's posters who would insist those were the good ol' days.
20 Mar 2021, 7:08 pm
20 Mar 2021, 10:17 pm
Cornflake wrote:
r00tb33r wrote:
I despise the "kiss the boo-boo" threads in The Heaven.
So don't go there?It's really very easy; WP is a big place and your contributions would be welcomed in other forums I'm sure. (BTW, it's "The Haven").
Also, what you perceive as help is... your perception of help. Sometimes just knowing that someone else has also experienced some painful or difficult event can help.
Good catch. I know how to spell Haven. Not sure how that slipped.
I find it extremely irritating seeing the same characters return with the same old boo-boos having done absolutely nothing differently and nothing at all to help their situation, and who become aggressive when given obvious suggestions.(I have read the rules, thank you.)
Those people are emotional abusers, they come back and drain you of emotional energy time after time, leeching on and wasting the support they are given.
The way I see The Haven is support and relief for situations that do not have solutions. Coping with death, chronic or lifelong conditions, rejection, etc. Situations of dispair where you're out of moves and out of options. Situations where there is no hope.
You'd be surprised, I use a little bit of it too for a lifelong problem that I have: me.
auntblabby
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20 Mar 2021, 10:36 pm
20 Mar 2021, 10:53 pm
auntblabby wrote:
some problems in life have more than one surface aspect, which is the aspect that attracts the most attention from sympathetic people who are likely to say, "if you do this this and that, your problem will be solved!" while not at all noticing the iceberg below the water which is the bulk of these folks' problem/s. many of us have problems like this, that latched onto us before we were even born, and won't let go without a lifetime of sustained arduous work. with this in mind, the real purpose of The Haven is simply to let people vent about all this.
Sure, but how many times are you willing to step on the same exact garden rake for someone before you tell them to flip the damn rake over already!?
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