No girl would ever go out with me
I did but I'm editing out of respect for the forum.
MR20 you need to get help. Perhaps it's our collective fault for not understanding that you are simply complaining and desire no real changes. Most posters in The Haven are looking for encouragement or constructive advice, which you were given in spades, but rejected somewhat rudely....
You have very fixable problems and it's very frustrating to see some prefer to wallow in self pity than take simple steps to improve their situation.
It's just a waste.
If you're going to post in the thread and have something to say, just say it.
I've probably heard worse

what do you want from people here!?
I want sympathy, and I want people to tell me that my life isn't worth living, and that I would be better off killing myself.
...Do I ever get immature when I'm depressed.
I hear ya..... in all of my years working with people on the spectrum, I've never seen anyone so determined to refuse any kind of help. Clinically it's fascinating, in reality it's sad and frustrating.
Yeah. Then again, I guess for some people it's hard to take advice from strangers.
Although, I try and take all the help I can get - from anyone.
Anything to make life easier.
I don't have any money for help and besides, it wouldn't do me any good.
Life will never be easy for me
BTW, I really hate your avatar. Nothing against you I'm just really annoyed by couple photos.
what do you want from people here!?
I want sympathy, and I want people to tell me that my life isn't worth living, and that I would be better off killing myself.
...Do I ever get immature when I'm depressed.
I'm 5 years older than you, and if you're going to be mean just ignore my thread.
what do you want from people here!?
I want sympathy, and I want people to tell me that my life isn't worth living, and that I would be better off killing myself.
...Do I ever get immature when I'm depressed.
I'm 5 years older than you, and if you're going to be mean just ignore my thread.
Now smarten the eff up.
You just described my life.
Get over it, and get on with it.
You're no worse off than anyone else.
Not trying to pick sides or start anything, but 'get over it' is usually the worst advice to give someone with depression, I think this is a case of depression. I could be wrong however. I think people should certainy try to move on and find better ways to deal with things.......but you can't really just get over mental problems. At least that's my opinion on it.
I agree with you for what it's worth. It would also be the opinion of most clinicians and trained mental health professionals.
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You just described my life.
Get over it, and get on with it.
You're no worse off than anyone else.
Not trying to pick sides or start anything, but 'get over it' is usually the worst advice to give someone with depression, I think this is a case of depression. I could be wrong however. I think people should certainy try to move on and find better ways to deal with things.......but you can't really just get over mental problems. At least that's my opinion on it.
Normally, i'd totally agree.
But with the number of posts and threads the OP has made and refused to take constructive, helpful advice - what else is there left except the truth of what everyone has to do?
Well personally I don't think trying to get over your mental problems is a good truth...I mean its not always possible. Now coming up with coping skills and things is a good idea but thats not quite the same as getting over it. But I can't claim I know everything about psychology....which is why I am taking psychology in college.
what do you want from people here!?
I want sympathy, and I want people to tell me that my life isn't worth living, and that I would be better off killing myself.
well people tried giving you sympathy
and...someone did tell you to "go die in a ditch" and you flammed him
you just want to whine and people to listen, I ain't giving you sympathy because you refuse to change or take any sort of action to improve yourself.
I was a lot like a lot of people here, I hate to admit it, but I was a whiny douche once, but I got over it, went out and tried things, tried making friends and s**t
did it bring me all the best of life, no
did it make me happy- yeah
happiness comes in strange places, you sit at home watching anime and get nowhere (and refuse to give it up)
I went to an anime con and made out and, such, with a few girls, random fun
you can't go blaming things like that for alienating you, cause you can get social with it
but you will just read this and say how you can't go out, cause everyone will laugh at you, and this is all a waste
you don't want my help and I don't see why anyone would want to try and help you, seeing what you've said
what do you want from people here!?
I want sympathy, and I want people to tell me that my life isn't worth living, and that I would be better off killing myself.
I got over it, went out and tried things, tried making friends and sh**
I tried that when I was young. It didn't work. I was a bit on the slow side and was in special ed from grade 1st through 6th, so I was already at an disadvantage there. I couldn't relate. Everyone I knew was trying to get money, sex, weed, and new clothes to look clean and impress girls. They also liked to talk behind people's back, make fun of other people, and being just plain rude.
I didn't like to do any of that stuff, but since I thought It'd help me fit in I faked interest in it. I tried weed for a while, because the people I hung out with were into it. Most of the when I had mine they'd come around and smoke which I thought was fine since I thought I was making friends. When they got theirs, they went other places, and always shunned and rejected me when I asked to smoke with them. They just used me. After I realized what they doing I just started smoking by myself and quit shortly thereafter because I started to hate the feeling I had while I was on it. That was around 6 years ago when I was 18
They bragged about money and clothes and stuff, things I never cared about. They used to make fun of the way I was dressed and the way my house looked and smelled. I could never afford the stuff they had. I hated it but let it slide since I thought they were joking at the time. Heck my sister was messed up mental and physically and they made fun of her a lot. I, once again like a dumbass, went along with because I thought this is how you fit it in and make friends
And of course since I was ugly, poor, slow, and spent time in special ed, no decent looking girl would want to go with me. I never heard the end of it from the supposed "friends" I hung out with. *hahhahha MR20 is still a virgin" "MR20 beats his meat" "MR20 you suck at sports, you need to get you some p****" They used to bust out me out and humiliate me in front of girls. They would ask them "would you go out with him?" or "do you find him cute?" when everyone knew the answers to the questions.
I really grew to hate one particular "friend" of mine. Let's call him Jeff. He was cute (according to most girls who knew and have seen him) arrogant and had game. He knew could he get girls/ women without much difficultly. He knew I couldn't so much as talk to a girl he had interest in, yet he teased me constantly about being ugly and dateless. He wasn't joking, he did it to hurt me. I hated him then and still hate now, but I hung out with with him and people like him back then because I thought that was the only way for me to have "friends".
I was like the jester/sideshow of the pack I hung out with. They made fun of me, occasionally hitting me, and tried to humiliate me and my family in front of new people.
They really made it a point to mock the way my face looked, and that I was slow and didn't have it all up there.
So after awhile I went back into gaming and got into anime, stuff I didn't do at first because the people I hung out with deemed it uncool. After I started doing that stuff, the people I hung out started to treat me worse than they did before. Soon I got fed up with the bullying and mocking, so i stopped hanging around them. Then I decided I should stop going outside and meeting people all together. That way I don't have to worry about people judging me or trying to impress other folks. I can sit in my room, play games and watch anime, disney, nick, and movies w/o anyone bothering me.
And that's pretty much how it's been for the past few years. Me locked up in my room w/ my interests. Only problem is that ever since a year ago or so I've started to become lonely and crave human contact, even though I know they'll shun and reject me like they did before.
So like I've said I have tried. It's no use. No one wants to be around a broken bum that has emotional and mental problems.
I won't give it up because it makes me happy, and I never got anywhere when I tried before.
I could never do that.

Ok, I've not read the entire thread as it's pretty painful reading but MR20, you seem to stop as soon as you come to a hurdle - regardless of it's size. There are many things we find harder to do than others but nobody is going to do it for us. Bathing, for example, is the easiest to take control of - have regular washes, it's not hard and doesn't take long - if you really can't use the bathroom, use the kitchen. You know your situation better than anyone else so only you can come up with solutions, maybe your family can help too.
I'm all for people venting on here but you often write similarly lengthy lists of issues that only grow rather than shrink. I'm sorry but put down the control pad and do something about them. Start with a wash.
I hear ya..... in all of my years working with people on the spectrum, I've never seen anyone so determined to refuse any kind of help. Clinically it's fascinating, in reality it's sad and frustrating.
Yeah. Then again, I guess for some people it's hard to take advice from strangers.
Although, I try and take all the help I can get - from anyone.
Anything to make life easier.
I don't have any money for help and besides, it wouldn't do me any good.
Life will never be easy for me
BTW, I really hate your avatar. Nothing against you I'm just really annoyed by couple photos.
I really hate your whining, nothing against you - i'm just really annoyed by whining trolls who can't accept help when people are giving it.
My avatar makes me happy - that you even felt a need to comment on it, it's amusing.
Anyway - I really am out now. The excuses are getting boring.
Have a nice day.

I'm all for people venting on here but you often write similarly lengthy lists of issues that only grow rather than shrink. I'm sorry but put down the control pad and do something about them. Start with a wash.
Actually people with chronic depression tend to find washing extremely difficult. It also sounds like the OP comes from quite a deprived economic background. I wish people would have more sympathy for him than constantly telling him to "Pull himself up by his bootstraps" "Because we all get what we deserve in life". They're cliches and they're wrong , subliterate and stupid.
