done just done could really use a hug.

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...He makes it sound like he's already said something and is waiting to get banned.

its already been pointed out I make sexist remarks.

"women just want guys who have cars, job, house and money" etc.

I based this off my experience from reading thousands and thousands of profiles and ads.

I asked if adding most, some, or in my area would change it, but nope still sexist, all women must be asumed to be 100%$ independent and have nothing in common with any other woman in spite of data that shows otherwise.

and thus this is why i will be banned. Sexism is anything that may show women in a bad light it seems.

I can't not deny reality which is that most women here demand those things and more. but that makes me sexist.

:'(

then add that by not asking to kiss or hug or touch every tyime makes me a rapist or sexual assaulter, I don't even know why I live, I promised I would kill myself before hurting a woman that way, but it seems I failed, so i should end it.

I don't think they ban for past things, but I will likely say similar things in the future. humans are repetitive

weather what I said is sexist or not is spilt, but those who think it is are likely to get their way.

I lost a long term 10 years going gaming community so why not this too.

They won't ban you. I'm telling you--unless you go off the deep end.

If they were intent on banning you, they would have done so already.

Please...you've to got listen to others' input. If you don't, you won't progress in life.

Well, no and no.

Sexism isn't just about women, and trust me, if you say that elsewhere you'll have men will jumping all over your back to make sure you know it?and for good reason. I think you should probably understand what sexism actually is before you convince yourself your going to get banned for it. Of course, there was an entire debate on what counts as sexism in that thread in LD.



Notice it says typically against women. That's probably because for much of history women were seen and treated as objects who could never do the things men did. But there's plenty of sexism against men. Misandry isn't any more right than misogyny.

I don't know if what you're saying would be considered sexist by everyone (if you really want to know, post it in that sexism thread on LD?just kidding, don't do that), but I would at least call it an annoying generalization. I know I'm not a 'woman', so I can't readily debunk your opinion on what 'most women' want, but any broad generalization of one gender is bound to be untrue.

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Reticent: you got the wrong guy LOL Kraftiekortie didn't say that!

The quotes got all messed up.

i don't see it as a generaliztion . I don't think nor mean all women, that would be silly, but I can see thru the profiles of a whole bunch of women that it seems it is what the majority want. even those here who say they don't also say they understand the reasoning why others world.

fact remains I don't have what those I've talked to consider a real job. I feel that no job I get will count, it makes my effort to find a job seem pointless, I consider just giving up the effort. working so hard to be considered worth loving, yet the goal post seems to just be moved when I get closer.

Some people think they can avoid generalizing by replacing 'all' with 'most'. That's not true.

whats the deep end? what me and you cosnider sexist or what femnist consider sexist.

I always thought about what the law says is sexist, discriminating based on gender. ie paying a woman less, or saying a woman can't do something cause she is a woman.


what I have done is make observations. When one sees profile after profile after profile say they want ABC, then one uses science to say that the majority want ABC. this doesn't mean all of them, but a good amount.
same as the studies that say aspies are like.... I don't match that but I have seen bunches who do. with any majority there will always be a minority or those who do not match what most do. . I now have an internal battle over am I sexist, but how can seeing reality and saying it be sexist, so then are those who say its sexist just hurt cause they are not like that and they don't want to believe they are in the minority.

this happens with a lot of things. the vita is not popular gaming device. I am in the minority of people who own one, but I don't claim the people saying that most handheld gamers own a 3ds is generalizing and hateful. its true. there are way more 3ds out there then vitas



overall its really depressing to see women, that seem to be a perfect match , i mean they seem to have great personality, we have so much in common, but then she says you must have a job, car, own place, and ambition. now repeat that 100s if not thousands of times. no amount of women who are across the nation or world saying well I'm not like that. Well that's great too bad you way over there, already in a relationship or just not into me.

like me saying I am hungry and some person in Germany saying well I have this hamburger here for you. it does no good, as I am not there. I have to deal with how the women in my area are not how the women in NY are, bc I am not in ny i live in Oregon.

That comparison doesn't...really...make sense. There's nothing 'hateful' about claiming that most gamers own a certain game system. There is something hateful about saying something like 'most men just want sex' or 'most women are just [hateful adjective here]'.

Not all generalizations are sexist and hateful, but they can still be annoying and downright false.

When you "go off the deep end," you go crazy.

That's extreme though. you're not even close to "going over the deep end."

It's not good to think in generalizations.

The only relevant people are you, and the woman/women who you are actually dealing with right now, or slightly before right now.

When people do a study, the results are generally generalizations. Just because 75% of women do this, it doesn't mean that the woman who are you talking about will do this.

i don't see how women wanting a guy to have a car, job, home etc is hateful. it sucks for guys like me, but I dont see how it is hateful.

I doubt those women would feel it is.

if i was saying women are stupid, dubm, whore, mean, spitiful, etc I could see it is hateful. I don't see how saying most women i've seen want or like something is hateful.

people have prefernces. society says a guy without a good paying job is useless. it is slowly becoming true the same is said for a woman.

most of the women who live here are in a exnpensive university, they are are getting high level degrees that are going lead them to high paying jobs. I also don't feel I am good enough for them anyways. When I see they either have a degree or are getting one I close them out. I have a 2 year degree in a field I can't work due aspergers. while they are super successful

I check craigslist 2-4 times a day so I see the women with the list quite often.
if it isn't that its they want a guy who is fit.

or abmition, or going somewhere, code words for the list.


Got a message from a lady I messaged back in december. not sure what to do about it.

I'm not saying that was hateful. Reread the bolded sentence.