I feel like a terrible person and a disgrace to WP. Goodbye

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Are you suggesting that he's wrong?

Diet, exercise, sunlight, water, sleep.. are in fact all the best cures for a lot of problems.

You don't like that he's persistent and consistent in his messaging, that physical exercise is good for the body, mind, mood, soul & more. That doesn't make him incorrect just because you don't like it.

Goldfish was right, getting all of this out was therapeutic. And it helps to have people here like you to support me during this breakdown since im hiding all of this from. my fiancee because I dont want to worry her. I want her to see me as the strong support that she can rely on, and that is why ive been hiding everything im going through from her for her sake

It takes immense courage to share what you've shared with me and I thank you for trusting me and being open with me since it gives me inspiration to push forward given your strength, and it also shows me that im not alone. so thank you

I dont honestly know how to joke or have fun. I try to but I dont. this trip with my fiancee so far was my 1st attempt at light talk and being fun and while I did alright, I felt like I was a nervous wreck trying hard to be fun to talk with even though im unsure what to say. ive taken it upon myself to force myself to watch American TV shows to teach me the finer arts of small talk and playful humor, and so far im still learning this esoteric art that im struggling to master. Maybe the kind and pleasant people here on this forum can teach me how to talk and not be a misfit

Please don't assume that it means you aren't welcome here.

You are.

Dragon…your thoughts are very clear.

Criticizing one for being happy IS like someone criticizing someone on a cancer forum for being in remission.

You’re better than you think you are, Dragon!

I just don't see anything wrong with someone expressing happiness about something good that's happened to them.

It doesn't make sense to me that somebody would be upset about that.

If one is not able to express enthusiasm for life, life becomes very grim, indeed.

The problem, for some people, seems to be the implied dismissiveness of the struggle that person is going through.
Some people are at a place where they can't see the forest for the trees.
If it is their thread, it would be polite to focus on them and be aware of their needs.

Just my opinion, but hey, I am Pepe.

his personality clashes with collective mindset of this forum, he would be better off without this community holding him back.

There IS no collective mindset of this forum. None whatsoever. That's ridiculous.

It messes you up is the short and long answer. It really messes you up. It causes you immense hatred and scorching rage towards those who ruined your life and fills you with obsessions of vengeance that consume you. I was strong enough to overcome that hatred from consuming me and making me hate all Jews only because I never could bring myself to hate an entire group because of the actions of a few bad apples when I knew how that felt like growing up in America post-9/11. However not everyone has that strength. Many of us who were victims of war react in different ways; some of the more enlightened among us use their shared suffering and pain to develop empathy with others since they realize what suffering and loss feel like and thus are able to connect better with others through shared suffering; others become more religious as a way to cope and even become more fundamentalist in their belief system under the belief that all of it is a test to purify one of sins and go to paradise; the saddest cases, and ive met some from this group, are those who are so broken by the war that their is no hope for living a decent life, they're suffering mental illness that is unfathomable especially when one of the byproducts of war is that healthcare infrastructure is depleted and destroyed so the requisite resources to address said pain are lacking, creating a feedback loop of hell and pain until joining a terrorist organization and becoming a suicide bomber is the only solace a person can have believing when they die they go straight to paradise blissfully

Some people become better people as a result of war, while others are driven by unbearable hatred for the other side and want to wreak as much as destruction as possible before going out to unleash that ball of hatred brewing inside. regardless which path survivors of war choose, benevolent enlightenment gained from the wisdom of suffering, or destructive hatred fueled by the pain war wrought, war is one of those things that never leaves one's psyche and forever follows someone even until death

the scars of war loom over its victims and can never be forgotten by those who've experienced it. for myself I regularly, even while having fun, see images of the carnage I witnessed in Palestine, and to this day certain innocent things like playing soccer I cant do because of memories of tanks rolling up in soccer fields while I was in Palestine. there's a reason why throughout my whole life in school I was given accommodations to not partake in soccer in gym class, and except for very few exceptions to this day I can never play or even watch soccer because of the bad memories associated with it

I just don't see anything wrong with someone expressing happiness about something good that's happened to them.

It doesn't make sense to me that somebody would be upset about that.

If one is not able to express enthusiasm for life, life becomes very grim, indeed.

That is exactly what I’ve been trying to get at, but don’t know that I got across clearly. I’ll use my previous analogy here. If someone on a cancer forum starts a thread in which they mention that they have a likely-to-be-fatal cancer, it would be mean of me to go in and say “Well, I have Hodgkin’s lymphoma, I’m practically guaranteed recovery,” but I don’t think it would be untoward for me to start a thread saying that my six-month PET scan came back clear and how relieved I was to be officially in remission (I saw lots of such threads in the lymphoma forum I briefly visited, including some where people were worried about symptoms but all of their tests came back clear and they never even had any cancer at all). I guess that illustrates the difference between flaunting or not. Though not everything would necessarily be so clear-set.

There IS no collective mindset of this forum. None whatsoever. That's ridiculous.