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01 Sep 2015, 1:13 am

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sly, we have been over this before and you already know what I think. And I'll say it again - having a girlfriend will not solve you're problems. You need to deal with your negative self talk and bad attitude. Will you consider CBT? It doesn't involve drugs.


catch-22 problem isn't it?

The solution to the problem is precisely what the problem denies.

Personally I tried cognitive based therapy and found it to be a joke. It's all about pretending to be 'normal' so you deceive everyone and get what you want... but then you end up with what you wanted but achieved through a lie and that...makes it meaningless. Catch-22.


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01 Sep 2015, 8:18 am

Personally I think Aspie women should be less condescending and sneering to immature AS men, unless those men are being blatantly misogynist. Aspie women have maturity thrust upon them, with the pressures on them and the fact that men are more often predatory/forceful. I'm not saying it's a fun life to be faced with rape and harassment, but the fact is AS Women have the maturity that life gives you forced on them. Any of those women could have been born male and grown up with the pressures put on men, and we have no guarantee they would face them any better. It's not as if we got a choice at birth and some of us chose to be a childish aspie male at home with video games, and some of us chose to be a wise, noble woman facing a life of abuse, but some AS women talk as if that is so.



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01 Sep 2015, 11:37 am

tombo12boar wrote:
Personally I think Aspie women should be less condescending and sneering to immature AS men, unless those men are being blatantly misogynist. Aspie women have maturity thrust upon them, with the pressures on them and the fact that men are more often predatory/forceful. I'm not saying it's a fun life to be faced with rape and harassment, but the fact is AS Women have the maturity that life gives you forced on them. Any of those women could have been born male and grown up with the pressures put on men, and we have no guarantee they would face them any better. It's not as if we got a choice at birth and some of us chose to be a childish aspie male at home with video games, and some of us chose to be a wise, noble woman facing a life of abuse, but some AS women talk as if that is so.


You don't choose what you get in life, you choose how you react to it. By reacting I don't mean what you feel and think. I mean what you do and say, no matter what you feel and think.

My feelings do not always mirror my actions and words.


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01 Sep 2015, 12:08 pm

I can't even tell when I am being condescending. I may think I am being helpful or explaining something and then I get told I am rude or condescending. What? I talk to others how I want to be talked to so I get something or understand something or get a different perspective.


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02 Sep 2015, 12:54 pm

infilove wrote:
Be your self.


That's the ironic part. I didn't even know AS existed until I was 30. I 'was' myself up until then. Zero results. Its why im staring at a bottle of wellbutrin wondering if it will actually make a difference.



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06 Sep 2015, 3:35 am

Well idk as a female I've had guys be a jerk to me. It depends on your age. If you're a teenager then all teenagers are just cruel except the ones who are getting picked on. I don't know why a lot of adult women are mean. You'd have to give some examples.



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06 Sep 2015, 10:21 am

This fella doesnt seem to like them.