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OK, I've asked my mum, this very same question, and in all honesty, she can't answer it. Call it an open question if you will, and feel free to discuss.

Why oh why, do most NTs have to be so two-faced?

I discovered this while I was on holiday for a week. I thought they liked my company...Yeah sure I was "a joke" to them, but I didn't know they actually didn't want me there with them. I didn't hint towards going either, as I found out through a better friend of theirs (who didn't go).

Now, when I say joke, I mean the joker, the comic relief, I always thought that this was a good thing, but it turns out they were playing me for a fool, which is one step out of line, and pretty much taking the piss.

If my so called ex-friends actually told me where I stood, I wouldn't get upset, and I wouldn't of gone on holiday with them either...Yeah I got upset once while I was away, and that was because I was accused of all sorts of s**t for no reason. I thought they accepted me with who I am, but it seems to me I wasn't. Yes, I've completely cut off my connection with them all now (Facebook, Mobile Phone, MSN, etc.), but why couldn't they tell the truth with me? I didn't tell them I was an Aspie either, because if I told them that, Jesus Christ I would've got bullied even more.

I'm never two-faced, with me, what you see is what you get.

Which brings me back to the main question...Why can't most NTs tell the truth? Why do they feel the need to hide against this so-called "other face"? Is it human nature, to be incredibly, and obviously two-faced against people like me who have done f**k all wrong to them, accept exist? Yeah sure, I might of said a couple of things that are out of line, or discussed the odd taboo every now and then, but we all make mistakes don't we? We are all human aren't we? That contradiction there, proves my point that this all doesn't make any f*****g sense.

Can someone please help me understand this social puzzle? I'm not dwelling over it, this question has bugged me, ever since I lost my first lot of friends back 3 or 4 years ago.

Apologies for the swearing, but when I'm confused over stuff like this, it really grinds my gears.

Many people are insecure and lack self confidence in themselves. Therefore, they need to insult and make other people look "small" and
insignificant in order to raise themselves up and feel important...it's an ego thing among NTs.

There are plenty of "good" friends worth looking for... so, don't bother with these cruel people. They will never be true friends to anyone.

People lie, it's as simple as that. I see people lying almost daily on this website as well, it's not an NT or aspie exclusive trait. People lie to emotionally protect themselves.

what zsazsa said,

and also they feel they have to fit a certain image that society has created, so they pretend to be that way some of them probably didn't want to treat you this way and felt bad. but they just couldn't break out of this fake character they have been playing for so long or they didn't think it was worth it to throw away the identity they have built up for years just to help someone else.

I sort of understand now. I thank you all, and hope one day I will find real true friends.

People is people, rats is rats. from a muppet movie

I hope you find true friends too.