Once Again

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Once again, I am questioning the validity of on-line acquaintances, or friendships. How many times must I fall for the illusion that I am becoming fast friends with someone, only to pour my heart out to them in an e-mail, and have it ignored? It hurts so much. I try not to let it, but my shaky trust in human beings gets a real blow, when it happens once again. It's bad enough I struggle so in RL with negotiating the shoals of humanity, but when it happens on here, I truly despair.

Sometimes it's hard to know how to respond.
What was in the e-mail?

I was talking about some overwhelming stuff that was going on in my life. I had written to this person before, and they were very responsive and supportive. I really wish that I didn't send the e-mail, because now I feel like a fool.

If you're at the pouring your heart out stage, get their phone number and call 'em. Otherwise, including the expectation in the email could help. I've got some real books in my inbox that I'm not sure how to go about responding to... I hope I'm not offending others without realizing it! Yikes

Oh, and the answer to your question is: seven.

Not sure what you mean by seven. Are you saying that it should be seven times until I feel rejected?

I am not sure this person would be comfortable talking on the phone. A lot of us Aspies aren't. And, it had been awhile since I'd written, but we hadn't had a disagreement or anything. They knew a little of my history, so I felt comfortable contacting them.

God, no. The phone is the worst.

Send me a PM.
I won't promise a response within the hour -- It's already past my bedtime.
But I'll get back to you.

This sounds like a very unpleasant experience, hartzofspace. There's no way to know, whether in person or on the Web, what a person will do. It's a risk, in other words. But do double-check your success rate. How many online friends have you made in the past year or two (or whatever time frame you like)? Is this experience just an annoying anomaly or a repeating pattern?

Fortunately, as you can see from the responses above, there are people here willing to support you, by phone or PM.

I would say that it is a repeating pattern, Aoi. I have been corresponding back and forth with someone, and then, abruptly, they will stop responding. I will see them still posting in the forums, but not to me! Or worse, they will start the correspondence, and then abruptly lose interest.


Yes, I do see it. And I appreciate that!