Dealing with a Drama Junkie Mother.

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Sorry, I just want to rant about how much my life sucks right now because of my Mom. Now I do love my Mom, she's the only one who's ever taken care of me, but lately her habit of causing drama has been driving me nuts.

All my life we've always seemed to have misfortune, from my parents divourcing and us being left without a house and having to live with relatives and friends until we got our own house, to my Mom always quitting her job because "the people in her work are b-words", to my Mom always going back and forth to really bad relationships.

I used to think this was all just because I had an unlucky life, but now I realize the reason my life has always been chaotic is because my Mom makes it that way. She just cannot stand for things to be content, she always has to stir up trouble and drag all of us into it just to make her life more interesting, yet she always denies being a Drama Queen, because according to her great wisdom everyone is a drama queen except her.

One thing she does that particularly bugs me is her relationships. For years she's been seeing this sorry piece of crap who has no home or job, is on probation, and is addicted to alchohol and drugs, not to mention is only 4 years older then me. She always lets him live in our house and do whatever he wants, until she gets "bored" and looks for a reason to get pissed at him and throw him out, then she finds another guy to temporarly date until she decides to go back to the old boyfriend. The nicer and more decent the guy, the quicker she dumps him. Also she and the sorry boyfriend got married once for 4 months and got a divource, and now she's back with him again.

I swear, there are just times I want to throw up because of crazy my Mom makes me, and as much as I want to just leave her, I still depend on her, so I can't move out yet.

And another thing that makes me angry is whenever I have a problem, she always has to overshadow it by making herself a more serious problem. I can never discuss the things that are bad in my life because she has to make her issues more importaint, and most of the time when I try talking to her she just ignores me or gets mad at me because my problems are never "importaint enough" for her. -_-

It's a tough situation to be in. To rely upon someone whose presence is probably more harmful than beneficial. I'm kinda in the same boat, with my dad. He's problems are completely different to your moms, but the overall result is still the same. I cannot get away from someone who seems to be doing harm, and keeping me going at the same time. I tried to get advice on what to do, and my uncle told me one thing: "Learn to live with it (your father) or leave." Seeing that leaving is not possible, I have to learn to live with what comes in my household. I really wish I had some better advice for you...