I just don't seem

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to know how to be human. It's a sh***y feeling to be slapped in the face with all your deficits and reminded that you're pretty much worthless because you can't act like a "normal" person.
All because I asked a simple question. I don't understand how asking a simple question (apparently it was insulting, but I don't understand HOW.) can make me deserving of an emotional beat down stating everything that's wrong with me and reminding me that I'm less than human (those words weren't use, but it's certainly how I feel).

I feel pretty damn low. =/

I don't know what happened but once years ago in therapy I told the therapist something I had said to someone. She then suggested that she say the same thing to me so I could hear how it sounded. Once I did that I could understand how what I said could be misinterpreted. I'm sorry your person wasn't so gentle.

So what was the question?

I have empathy with you but try to learn from this experience life sucks even for NT's, I keep quiet a lot because of this until I have found out what another person is like there sense of humour etc. When I know this I figure out what is the right thing to say or not. Please don't feel depressed. There are a lot of us older Aspies that had to deal with a world we did not understand and hated. We just had to try and fit in, so we were forced to develop the right social skills to get along. Depression was my middle name until I found I could express myself via the written word and could talk to someone. Well anyhow got a daughter out of my first marriage whom I love dearly and although on my second marriage got a wife that understands me for who I am.

I score very highly on the Aspie tests as to be almost Autistic, however I suspect you are very shy in real life. You obviously shut down in any confrontational situations as do I, I just want to run away and hide. Real life is not like that you must face your inner demons I tend to get very defensive real easy and lash out verbally. I had a lot of issues myself and it was not until I was 38 that my after talking about relationship problems with my 3 fellow workers all women told me I was actually quite handsome which came as a shock to me as I thought I was at best just ok looking, they were not just being nice either. So I determined to step out of my comfort zone and actually meet women, and the trick I discovered is that women like to talk at you not with you.
so just nod and say yes that's terrible and life is easier.
Being Aspie does not mean you can form true and long lasting relationships just learn an emotional vocabulary I screwed up my first marriage because of this and it was before I realised what was wrong with me. It is very hard for an Aspie to put into words what we feel, I'm fortunately involved in my second marriage with a wonderful woman whom I love dearly who has her own issues CAPD which can mimic Aspie issues. We have learned to make allowances.