I'm mortified.

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I am mortified.

A member of an online community I'm in has passed away, and as you would expect there are lots of people who are upset. I made a thread in the staff board, just saying that she had passed away and how I was finding it difficult to believe she was gone. I thought that just making a thread would be a good way to express feelings, y'know, but then the admin posts and tells me that one of the moderators was a close friend of the member and that she might find it a bit distressing to be constantly reminded of her death.

I thought that it was a good idea to make a thread, but I didn't realise how tactless it would be. I can't believe I didn't think before I did it ><

The last girl I asked out I accidentally got fired from work because her boss found out she gave me her number. (my fault)... Her and her daughter are probably out on the street somewhere.

Case in point, the only right action is inaction - which isn't a action, but does keep me out of trouble. Don't be so hard on yourself.

... And maybe the close friend could have enjoyed sharing her/his pain and souvenirs with other people.

This admin who closed your topic or so was maybe wrong about it, not you.

And now, you won't know if no one dare to respond to that admin.

My condolences for the loss you feel right now.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. One thing I've learned about death is that everything we do is wrong. My Mom taught me that. She said it's because everybody's so awfully upset that they take it out on others. Your admin sounds misguided. Please put the bad feelings away from you, you didn't earn them.

You shouldn't feel bad about starting that thread. Chances are someone else on that forum would've done the same thing (if you haven't) and would still get the same complaint from the moderator.

I think it's just that you had a different way of showing how you cared for that person. I think that the moderator knows this and I don't think you've caused any ill will. Besides, if you didn't know that the moderator was a friend of that person, then it isn't really what I'd call 'tactless.'

Some people take the sensitiveness too far.

What you did wasn't necessarily wrong. It's just a subjective thing.

In any case, the moderator is assuming that the other moderator will feel a certain way. It's shaky ground.

Don't feel disheartened. Other people probably would have liked the thread but the moderator who removed it was being overprotective.

It's not your fault.