Have you found being yourself has gotten you into trouble?

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From joking threats in College (leading to a suspension) to not understanding sexual harrassment ALMOST getting me fired from my first job I've told my stories time and again on WP but while reading around I hear stories of putting on a mask and being like them UH! It's ME BEING ME! that has landed me in Trouble NOT being "one of them" or "like everyone else" Can anyone relate to this at sometime in your life and do you have any tips because as of now the only solution I can think of is depression since IMO being "happy"=bad behavior (Do I WANT TO be depressed NO! Do I feel I have any other choice NO!) Thanks for the help WP!

I've had some unexpected outcomes from doing things that seemed sensible to me. My solution has been to simply avoid unfamiliar situations as much as possible, and have someone guide me through unfamiliar (and even familiar) situations. I check with family and friends about what to do in a wide variety of situations, refer to books (from Emily Post and Ms. Manners to specific subject areas), and post questions on relevant forums.

Mostly I just live my own life in my own way, and deal with the problems when (inevitably) they come. Some depression hits after, and then I get on with living my life in my own way.

Being happy = bad behavior! Yes! But how to know what you can get away with and what you can't?

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Sometimes I say something assuming the other person will realize I'm joking and they react in anger thinking I'm serious.

Alot of times when I'm mad at someone else for saying something or doing something I'll find it really really hard to just "let it go". I find this is just me being me. I've lost a lot of friendships because I have these unflinching morality issues and they get me in trouble. Well having morals doesn't get me in trouble it's how I end up treating people who I feel don't meet my standards of morality. I can't seem to be fake and put on a mask when around people like that. I've almost gotten into fights over it. People tell me I take things too seriously and I just think that's being myself. Other people don't see it that way...

Great post! I know myself well enough that when I first started College I was fearful then I let my guard down and the suspension happen It makes me question myself since truthfully before feeling comformtable I was scared/nervous etc. (hadn't been in a school setting since 5th grade since I had a major surgery then was homeschooled through 11th grade and started GED on that College campus) The whole routine issue of night courses,multiple classes etc. was foriegn to me and I'd say it took a whole YEAR to be comfortable in College then to have it destroyed like that (Now I'm back where I started scared/nervous plus the feeling of OMG what if I upset someone again and what I see as normal others don't and sadly I don't think NT's or ANYONE will ever truly understand us.