Ever feel like not bothering with certain people anymore?

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HowlingMad1992
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18 Sep 2009, 10:54 am

Its just the way I feel at the moment. I feel like I'm not exactly in the 'inner' circle anymore, as if I'm stood on the sidelines watching. I feel like I'm heading in a different direction than what others in the group are and that I don't really feel like I belong with them. Has anyone else felt like this?

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18 Sep 2009, 11:19 am

Yeah, this happened to me quite often in High School; I'd lose interest in the group and start hanging out by myself for a while. Eventually I'd drift into another group. It was kind of unconsious at the time, but I can definitely relate to what you're saying.

I find I distance myself from people quite easily; I often presume that they want space even more than I do (don't ask why, I just never questione the presumption), so sometimes went to great lengths to avoid boring them with my company...

I think it's kind of natural not to always stick with the one group, but if you're finding yourself withdrawing from everyone around you, be careful you're not slipping into depression. Is there another group of people with whom you feel you have more in common?

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18 Sep 2009, 11:23 am

If you can, never spend time with people who damage you.
I think Lene gave you a good caution.

HowlingMad1992
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18 Sep 2009, 12:14 pm

Lene wrote:

Yeah, this happened to me quite often in High School; I'd lose interest in the group and start hanging out by myself for a while. Eventually I'd drift into another group. It was kind of unconsious at the time, but I can definitely relate to what you're saying.

I find I distance myself from people quite easily; I often presume that they want space even more than I do (don't ask why, I just never questione the presumption), so sometimes went to great lengths to avoid boring them with my company...

I think it's kind of natural not to always stick with the one group, but if you're finding yourself withdrawing from everyone around you, be careful you're not slipping into depression. Is there another group of people with whom you feel you have more in common?

Well not a group, but I do have a mate in my IT class that I get along with well.

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18 Sep 2009, 7:49 pm

All the time, I'm never able to fit in with anyone so when I see a friendship is not possible which seems to be all the time, I kind of step aside, give up and to not bother to make an effort.

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19 Sep 2009, 6:52 am

HowlingMad1992 wrote:

Well not a group, but I do have a mate in my IT class that I get along with well.

Cool, hang around with them more then (if it seems they don't mind). In time, you may get introduced to their friends or you may add more people to your fledgling group.

Just remember not to freeze out your old friends; they haven't done any wrong, and it might be nice to know they're still there even if things go belly-up

HowlingMad1992
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19 Sep 2009, 1:31 pm

Lene wrote:

HowlingMad1992 wrote:

Well not a group, but I do have a mate in my IT class that I get along with well.

Cool, hang around with them more then (if it seems they don't mind). In time, you may get introduced to their friends or you may add more people to your fledgling group.

Just remember not to freeze out your old friends; they haven't done any wrong, and it might be nice to know they're still there even if things go belly-up

I won't ignore them completely, I'll still say hello if I see them on the street or talk to them over MSN if they are online. Plus I have them on facebook so If I want to talk to them on there I can.

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