Really hurt and upset

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So today I had to go to court for a family matter that I was a victim in. My ex aunt's lawyer was asked if what I displayed in the court room was Autism or if he belived I had Autism..and he said "no, that I don't have autism, that it would be Aspergers..and blah blah blah...I hate when neurotypical people try to label us...if we can do this or can't do that they assume they know us...I dont understand how you can meet me for no more then 2 mintues and know EVERYTHING about me and who I am..I really hurts me and upsets me that people things because you have Autism,Aspergers whatever that you can't 1. Drive, 2. go to school 3.talk...etc....I think its so wrong for people to assume they know US and know how we think or how we behave...they forget that even though we may all have the same problem or condtion that we are still human and still have our OWN IDENITY...even if it may be different then the standard ways...I am just really hurt and upset..and angry that people keep making assumptions about me rather then seeing how F**K*D up life is for me other then the little things I know how to do...there are so many things i would give my right arm to be able to do in life...and it fustrates me that I can't do them and yet neurotypical people think they know me and know us and know everything...its bullcrap... now i feel worse about myself and I dont know how to get out of it and how to feel better....HELP!

aww, it's not something to dwell on. people will be people haha.
it's not your fault that the world at large aren't very educated on the condition and come to their own assumptions, even though there's relatively few who will take it to mean something that's offensive to you. there's about an equal small number who will look at it as a really good thing and think you're special (in a good way, not like special ed haha) because of it.
and then there's the general huge mass who don't really know what to think of it.

i used to not really like labels. but as life goes on you learn that it really hardly matters. nothing to get upset about. maybe a little annoyed but letting them get to you isn't worth it.
and moping won't prove them wrong haha .

embarrass the know-nothings with a little proper aspie education
teach them that you're more than that, that you're above that.

a little patience and understanding goes a longgg way

Good advice...but it can still hurt...
The time someone laughed in my face when I disclosed to them that I might be on the spectrum...gave me a little dent that lasted a long time...A lot of us are really sensitive and we can't help being hurt...
My situation is nothing like yours...but as difficult as it may seem, try to keep a level head as best as you can...

After experiencing an episode of hurt...I was able to interact with this person further...and hopefully make her understand more clearly the nature of my difficulties...or maybe not...who knows?

She was wearing her "mental condition" on her sleeve...and that was the only reason I brought it up....She said she had worked as an advocate for people with mental health issues in the past...so it was highly insensitive for her to respond the way she did, regardless of what her opinion was....

I honestly cant really vote since AS wasnt a real dx until the 90s, and i graduated high school in 1999. Then again, some of my spectrum behaviors did crop up a lot and was ridiculed constantly (Obsession with Battletech and Magic: The Gathering).

Well, I have had people tell me that I every problem I have is a "choice" that I make, that I was an "a**hole" because I "chose" to misinterpret things and cues they put out, that they wished that I had a "real illness like cancer" so that "I would die and nobody would miss me".....

Words like that used to hurt me very much.

But I know I am a decent person. I may have Asperger's, I may have schizophrenia, I may be one of the most socially awkward people out there, but I have enough people on my side that I care about to know that I am very much not alone.

Some people out there get off on being cruel to people they do not understand. Hell, a lot of people out there are like that. But I have come to realize that in those cases, I am not the one with the problem. By keeping that philosophy, and realizing that the issue is all theirs, I no longer have to own or even care about any of that BS that they put out.