"Discussion" with neighbour

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I live in the Australian state of Victoria and have a probationary driver licence due to my AS it has a permanent automatic restriction on it unless I sit a test to get the restriction removed. I am currently going for a job in Canberra in another state the rules are different there in that i can get a licence that allows me to drive autos and manuals wirhout sitting a test when and if I swapped it over. He (my neighbour) claims that I would get in a manual car just because I could, panic and kill someone and that getting the manual licence is the main reason for wanting to go there. It is part of it and I admitted that but wanting a job and something I would be good at is the main one. Also wanting a change of scenery and to get out of Melbourne where I have lived my whole life is another. He is right in that the licence is an attraction but not the whole one. Also just having it on my licence doesnt mean I will use it I think he is wrong on that. I mean like i said he is partially right but not wholely by any means he doesnt feel depressed and isolated like i do right now. Also I wouldn't drive the car just because i could but i would be more likely to get lessons if i knew i didnt have to sit a test. It is like he is trying to second guess me or something or put me down. I went on holiday to Canberra last week and absolutely loved the place I find Melbourne noisy, crowded and stressful. Without a job at the moment I sit at home alone a lot of the time doing nothing in particular getting the job as a tour guide at Parliament house is something I think I would be good at. Yesh I have found manuals tough but not as tough as driving under test conditions it is that I want to avoid again having already done it for my automatic licence if I do stay in Victoria I will just keep driving auto but having manual would be a bonus.

Last edited by Catster29 on 19 Oct 2009, 6:34 am, edited 1 time in total.

That neighbour is not your friend. The enormity of him telling you that you're some sort of lethal monster! Honestly, there are a lot of things that I (and presumably you, too) *can* do but *don't* do because we are civilized people. As an example, smacking your neighbour in the face with a cream pie comes to mind.

His comments are unreasonable. You seem to have a good idea and some common sense - trust your own judgment.

Your neighbour seems strange to me. There is no reason to put you down like that. I'm thinking he may be a bit envious of you and your getting to do something that you might be very happy doing. I can't see many other reasons for how he said what he said.

Your neighbor is just being a jerk. Probably none of what he said has anything at all to do with you or with any valid concerns; he's just being mean.

Why does he know so much about you?

Share your problems with friends only. Everyone else will just use them against you at some point.

Slightly off topic but never admit your weaknesses to people who may actively seek to exploit them which could be anyone until you know different so it's best to just never admit weakness during conversations with aquantances, only very close friends and family will take things like that in the way they're meant.

Apart from that do whatever you want to do, your neighbour isn't making the decision.

he knows a fair bit about me because we are kinda friendly in that we go walking and stuff admitting to him my "weakness" if you can call it that is really my personality and AS mixed I am too open for my own good.

I thought his comments wouldnt get to me but today being tired, stressed, in a reasonaBLY new car and obviously affected by his comments I made a slight lapse in judgement when driving. I wanted to turn left and put my indicator on but for some reason (I think because my other indicators were on the other side) I was going to turn left into the right lane instead of the left I saw what I was doing and corrected it at the last minute no damage at all just a bit of what if I had feeling. I felt annoyted at Michael as well I never do stuff like that but his critisisms obviously did hit me. So what if it took me twice to pass my test in an auto it takes many people way longer and many more times than that. Tonight at a street BBQ he and James another neighbour who both think it is hillarious to wind me up were doing it until I was pushed to breaking point and lost it. I am going to write to the wife of James and try and explain the situation make it clear why I was upset.