Taking A Break

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I think that I'm going to take a break from WP for a little while. I seem to be feeling down lately, and for some reason WP makes me feel worse. I don't know why it's so hard for me to stay away from here, but I feel that if I post that I'm leaving for a bit, then I'll have a better chance of making myself do it, because I said I would. I always try to do what I say that I'm going to. So, I'm aiming for at least a week of no WP, maybe longer. I *might* still answer posts that are directed to me personally, but other then that, I won't post, or read. I'm so addicted to this place, and right now it's not helping me.

It's been a couple wks, since I've visited WP, and I'm feeling better about my habit of spending waaay too much time on here, but geez it would've been nice to at least to have gotten 1 'I hope you feel better' type of reply. Or any reply at all. Being ignored doesn't make me feel better, but it does make it easier to stay away from here from now on.

I have been trying to stay off too so I hope people dont think I am ignoring them...

Good luck with your diagnosis! I might be going for mine soon too....

I myself have posted some threads that got little to 0 posts so I know how it can be...

I know this board can be really impersonal and at times that can be upsetting. But in a way it is good as it is harder to take time off a board where you feel that you have to keep posting because otherwise people will think you have abandoned them. I had that situation with a previous board I belonged to.

Awesome people but the downside was I felt I had to keep posting regularly to be part of things. When i did leave the board this one person in particular was quite hurt, also because I could no longer MSN with her because I get obsessive with boards and MSN. I find emails the best because they are sort of mono-tracked and simple and I dont get so obsessive for some reason.

Anyway dont leave the board, I like seeing your posts around.

Ok. off to try and stay mostly offline again....

Hi Serenity, First. if I have seen the first post I would have replied, even if I cant say I know you well but I have noticed your presense on the forum.

But I missed it and I see it first by your second post

I would have said that I understand you as im addicted to WP too and it indeed takes a lot of my own time and even prevents me from taking part of my special interests. Then I would have said that its a pity to feel addicted to something that doesnt even make you feel good. So it would be a good idea to leave for a while and get some distance. Then it can be nice to pop by sometimes

So, I understand it was difficult for you to return here and discover no replies. I would react just as you. The same thing happened to me on facebook and that doesnt make me feel either appreciated, wanted or missed there and I dislike the place even more. Maybe you feel the same about WP by now...
Anyway, its never to late to show you care right, so I hope you will sort out whats difficult to you in your life and can focus on other things that is more important than an ignorant forum on the internet!

Take care, and I mean it

I know what you're saying about e-mails. They're way more in depth, and don't offer quite the instant gratification that quick paced message boards do. I've been trying to stick to communicating that way myself. I don't do messengers anymore, but at one time I was somewhat addicted to that, too. I think that addiction sucked more time out of my day than any others. I'd rather e-mail, or call someone than use the messenger. One very small conversation can take up to an hour, and you're tethered to your computer the whole time, where as with e-mail you type it, and send it, and it's done.

WP is impersonal, and it is a good thing if one needs to take a break. I know the board isn't gonna really miss me if I'm gone. I'm a mod on another AS forum where I do need to at least check in everyday, and there is a little more pressure to be available there.

Good luck to you too, if you decide to go for your diagnosis! I'll be sure to post the results of my evaluation when I get it. Probably will be in early January.

Oh, and thanks for replying.

I understand what you mean about noticing people's presence on here. I don't really pm people, and to be honest I don't think I'd notice if some people would stop posting, but I notice when they DO post. There's about 15 or so people on here that I enjoy reading their posts, so I take extra time to read, and reply to their posts, but if they were to leave I probably wouldn't notice for at least a few weeks, if ever. That's why I'm not taking it too personally that no one really noticed that I was gone. I can't say that I'd be any different. Though, it stings a bit not to get any replies, especially in the haven.

Autism Spectrum Disorders, other disorders, and human behavior are my special interests, so it makes staying away from here really difficult. I love the way people communicate here. It's the first place that I've found that I can talk about what I want, the way I want, and it's not only acceptable, but everyone else communicates the similarly. But, I guess there's a fine line between pleasure, and pain. As with anything I do, it's pretty much all in, or not much of anything at all. I don't have gray areas with very much of anything that I do. WP sucks up too much of my time. My life is hectic, and my kids need my attention.

Facebook is a source of a lot of conflicts, for a lot of people. I've noticed the line is blurred between where real life ends, and facebook begins. I hope that you didn't take it too personally. People get wrapped up in their own lives, and their own pages forgetting to include others that aren't drawing attention to themselves. Like I said, pretty much like real life.

Thanks for your reply Xalepax. I hope that you find the balance between WP, and your special interests. It's kinda like quitting smoking. The first few days are really hard, but after that it's not as bad. It's just resisting checking in the first few days that's the hardest.

Hi again, thanks for your reply too, that you took time to write so long, just for me. Its not often that happens actually. Because Im just as you, like to be around here but dont have any private contact by pm with anyone. I also notice some certain people and like their presence but I can actually notice if someone is abcent and I can miss somebody here even if its just less than an aquaintance...

And I also like WP for the same reasons as you. I can be myself here in a way I cant anywhere else and that feeling is just good. I dont have any friends at all and to be here and say some random words to some random people with the same diagnosis as me gives me the pleasure dose of usually uncomfortable socialising...

About Facebook. Unfortunately I did take it too personally because Im there only to keep contact with my relatives. It hurted me when I wanted to share something about myself and NOBODY cared or replied while my cousins can say just one stupid single word and get lots of reactions. That made me feel like a real social failure. Pretty much as IRL indeed. No wonder why I keep withdrawing myself from there more and more!

Okay, I should not bother you with writing so much when you try to stay away. I will keep track of my own visits here when thinking of fullfilling my dreams and goals. Its good for me to be here, I just need to find balance and disipline towards my WP addiction but you are right it feels like Im "smoking"

So,I hope you will enjoy your time with your children and get a less hectic life when staying away from the WP. I understand you need a break and its healthy actually and maybe one day you can come back with new ideas and a fresh mind.

The best to you!

It would be good to see the results of your diagnosis, I will look out for them. I will also post mine when I get it. I may only get PDD-NOS though Anyway I hope you get a lot of peace and do some enjoyable things while on a break from online stuff.