Old friend has cancer

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I just found out today that a girl who I was friends with in high school has cancer. We haven't talked in years, but I've kept in touch with her boyfriend (he's who I heard about it from). Should I try to contact her? Would she even want me to? Or would that just be awkward?

It might be a good idea to try and contact her. to reminice about the old times.

Hope you're doing ok.

Talk to her boyfriend about getting in touch with the friend, he'll have a better idea than me.

Athough, I think her bf may need support. Though, I don't know if he would say it directly because I don't know him. Support could be stuff like chatting for a bit longer than usual (if you think he needs to chat longer) or meeting with him socially.

As regards the friend, make sure that she's ok with you knowing about the cancer. I remember reading that soft things (fluffy soft bathrobes) are good for those in kimotherapy, the skin is sensitive (I don't know how you can use this info but I'm sure that it can be used somehow).

I agree that you should consult her boyfriend. A friend of mine died of pancreatic cancer about two years ago and I only heard about it through his wife after he died. She said that people trying to contact him during treatment only made things worse, largely because the cancer was discovered at the "make out your will" stage. 6 weeks, diagnosis to death. She, on the other hand, needed all the support she could get.