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I didn't think I'd be the one saying this, but I hate life. My roomate is out having the time of his life at some party and he can never understand why I can't have the same kind of fun he can, I can't just walk up to girls and get them to like me, hell I can't even get guys to like me. I wonder if it's because of the AS or a complete lack of interest in everything. I have this habit of either being a nobody, or a complete screwup and I'd rather blow my brains all over the back lawn than wake up in my 30s and wonder why I'm the world's biggest f**kup.

Not sure what to say. Talk to 100 Aspies and you will find 200 different ideas about how to cope; how to make/keep friends; how to date. I have no idea if my experience would be of any help to you or not.

But, if you are depressed, then I think it might be a good idea to have a conversation with your doctor and your psychologist. Anti-depressants might not be the right answer for you, but there may be CBTs to help you.

Jeah, there are hundreds of aspies worse off then you. Getting chicks and having a blast at some party is waaaay overrated. I don't know what country your in and how the pressure is over there... but either you do something about it or you don't. I used to be the same way secluded quiet and alone, then one day I opened up and got some friends I could party with and we did some s**t together, and today i say f**k that. if you really feel like trying it out no more crying and just go have fun and let lose stop worrying about s**t and just drink till you pass out wake up the next day go puke in the kitchen sink and call it a night and a day, and if you have a KFC near by that would be a perfect follow up, then see a movie smoke some weed and smile.

(I bet I'd get a message from the moderators to chill the f**k out and respect others hardship, but dude you don't f*****g know pain if this is one of your major problems in life,... just saying.)

Now go execute operation "Lose Yourself!"

Anti-D don't help Aspies jack s**t. Real turnarounds come from the mood you yourself create. And that is that. It all sounds very simple just saying it but I did those things, i am living proof of that a deeply Aspiefied person who is highly misanthropic can turn things around, step outside of the bubble (a little self sacrifice) and take some risk, try some new stuff. Stagnation is the reaper of souls.
(I still prefer to be alone and have nothing to do with those Neanderthals I ones hanged with and tried to create some kind of bond with, they are all imbeciles, but if you wanna try go ahead nothing is stoping you but yourself and your aspie traits, but muster some strenght and you'll get some results, you'll see.

I agree with these responses. Find your own way in life. Don't try to conform to the party crowd. There is so much more to life.

So live on the internet! Don't just not live at all! Look at you - 555 posts! You've clearly got something here.

Can't stand parties myself, and I don't agree with SoulcakeDuck - alcohol & drugs aren't the way to go. Find yourself an interest, splash out on a high-bandwidth internet connection and lose yourself... but not that way.

There's a life for everyone somewhere. NTs can keep the real world - us Aspies own cyberspace!

In no way do I want to be rude but if you really read and understood my post then you would notice that I resent partying and socializing. What I did say was that I had tried it for a long time and I made and effort. Because if our friend MDD123 here sees that way of a successful and fulfilling path in life then I dare him to take that leap and try it out as I did. The end result is that you cannot change who you are and what makes you tick so I myself returned to what i found most pleasurable, I left all of that chaos behind (party,social life,drinking), but ther's still nothing wrong with weed.

That is all.

I R rogue, DPS Meter is our battleground!

That's what somebody who has never done it would say.

I disagree. If you don't enjoy going to parties, it won't be a blast. If feeling like you must drink annoys you, some parties and people will annoy you. If you're people claustrophobic, 'good' partys will not be pleasant (many people being at the party). If people drinking themselves into a stupor annoys you, some partys will really annoy you.

Also, as regards the getting chicks, I don't think that many partys give out young chickens (joking, lol ) Though, seriously, if partys don't do it for you, the type of girl that you meet there probably won't be the type you're looking for. Unless, you're looking for a one night stand, if that's the case, you might just meet a girl there but it will only be for that night and is unlightly to be more than that.

An exception to this are dinner parties, they are quietish formal events, they are different than hot sticky house parties and night clubs.

Don't get me wrong, I do like some parties, I do like some night clubs, but I can see how someone could hate them.

Suicide isn't painless, and it isn't the answer, just buck up, find a friend, and hang out with them. Just be careful with life, and remember, not everything is bad, most of the time, those who would befriend your roomie, would be a prick to you. In the end, it's better to have one or two good friends than a ton of crappy ones.

I don't disagree--which is why I prefaced with the conditional, "if you are depressed," which I meant in a clinical sense.

AS and depression are not the same condition. The social deficits from AS can create stresses that provoke depression. Each should be managed differently, and often in consultation with different professionals.

True dat, all true. The only way to tolerate an annoying drunk is to become one. But there is a reason they call it a 'social lubricant' - a spoonful of sugar and all that...and when everyone in the room is hammered and you say something socially inappropriate - everybody thinks you're funny as hell...



Though there is a lot to be said for p**y in its own right. Men tolerate all sorts of crap for it. Sometimes they even die for it. Thank God for synthetics - a Fleshlight is less than a hundred bucks, and wont insist you watch sappy movies with it.

MDD123 Mah Brutha, I am sorry to see you in such a down cycle - but it is a cycle - all bad times pass. You will find the person/people/place that's right for you. It doesn't have to be today. Good things come to he who waits, and 26 years is a very short time in the grand scheme of things. Hell, even in terms of human life span, its less than a third. Find something you do like and get your mind off the shi**y stuff.

These black moods are part of the burden that is AS, but they pass (believe me, I know). Hang in there. Much love.

Correct! I have 1 person I would call a friend, pure guy love (nothing homosexual, just two dudes hanging out together for life).


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I'm not one to lie, nor tell stories to make myself look cool, I rather sit in my room for 3 months playing Dreamcast: Sonic Adventures and smell like a corpse then go out party now days but if you want proof. I will relentlessly, apocalyptickly bomb your PM with party photos and chicks and all that s**t you doubt I've done.

Say the word.

Ah, K get it now. Guess I was a bit hasty there and misunderstood.

Devote yourself to something more worthy.