I am kinda friendly with my neighbour we hang out a fair bit. Anyway he got obsessive about his ex girlfriend and stalked although less so now her by driving around to her house and sitting there, calling her up and hanging up, getting others to call her, getting people to knock on her door, guessing her password for email. Facebook and RSVP and reading them on my computer, calling up the airline to find out when she is getting back from her holiday and threw eggs at her place. Anyway my problem is that I got too far involved I was there a few times when he was sitting outside her place, was a look out whilst he went into her shed, threw eggs once and one time turned off her lights at the fuse box.
To "help him out" I naively decided to place an ad on Gumtree with his ex address saying that she was after casual sex with women. Anyway it got way out of hand and being asexual and Asperger's thought she would get a couple of people tell them to f**k off and that would be it. Instead she got like 60 responses and got in a full on argument with people at her door. I also got into her emails and replied to ones people had sent regarding the ad and then deleting them so Tina would not know. I did not intend to hurt or upset her or put her in danger just annoy her I thought it would be a joke instead it got way out of hand and she called the cops, so far so good nothing has happened to me. Trouble is that other people are upset with me for doing it and sure it wasnt a good idea but there is a lot more to the story than they know. The truth is I didnt understand the wider implications of playing such a prank I have trouble because of my AS seeing the wider consequences. For those of you who are going to say well I can see the consequences etc I say remember that AS affects everyone differently and for me this is an area I have great difficulty with.
When things got out of control Michael started threatening me and is always accusing me of lying and is blackmailing me he is a crook through and through the amount of stuff he has told me he has done. He started yelling and screaming at me tonight because i am telling people about it of course I am I have got way too far involved and I am sick of him acting like I have done everything I haven't sure I sent the ads but he was the one that got me involved in the Tina stuff in the first place and despite what he says he is more involved than me. I made mistakes I exaggerated (not lied) on a stat dec to help him out make his case look better and at the advice of Lifeline wrote a letter to Tina telling her Michael was getting into her emails etc but left myself out of it as anyone would. I understand that LL counsellors thinking but her advice made the situation 10 times worse when Michael found out from the police it was me who sent it. Yes Michael never told me to send the ads but he did say it would be "funny" and told me Tina's second name and never said not to do it so I took it literally. He did tell me to call her, knock on her door, turn off her power, throw eggs etc. He is making threats etc as well he has really upset me he told someone at work that when people with Aspergers are born they should be held under water to drown (later apologised for that). That was an awful and cruel thing to say. He keeps saying that if it gets to court he will say x, y,z to get me into it that he will make me look bad stuff like that. Another neighbour James who lives across the road one day said to me "Michael doesn't care about the welfare of his cat he just lets it run wild" I told Michael this and he then went to James who denied it accusing me of saying it. Another example is that James didn't want me to ask him for help and called my mum up and told her to get me to leave him alone. Again Michael went and asked James who again denied it. I feel like I can't say anything to anyone without my every word being scrutinized people often give different accounts for any number of reasons they don't want to get involved, they remember differently, they are embarrassed or they want to make themselves look good it doesn't mean I am lying. I am tired of being accused of lying, I am tired of being held to ransom (the stat dec etc), I am tired of being threatened (you wont be living in this house I will bury you under it, I have information keep quiet etc) and I am tired of thinking things are ok only for it to be brought up again and again. Tonight I lost it yelled at him and he yelled back at me making threats and I left in tears. I have spoken to a lawyer and yes exaggerating the stat dec was stupid but as she said everyone does it, Michael keeps accusing me of lying he is a thief and a cheater I on the other hand are someone who yes made mistakes and yes was stupid but simply got too far involved so it is totally hypocritical even if I was "lying" I am not and never was. I admit I made mistakes in it but I do not deserve for this aggro and upset over it. Normal people would have accepted the break up he didn't and is still harassing her a year later. I just saw him go over to James place it is obvious he is trying to get him "on side" or similar the whole thing is very upsetting and stressful, I am also angry and tired of it. Both James and Michael are from totally different backgrounds to me they are both typical Aussie blokes James in particular is typical Aussie he likes to swear a lot, drink a lot and worst of all he has picked up I am easy to make fun of and does that too. It wasn't until his (James) wife came and todl me I realsied that was going on.
19 Nov 2009, 4:04 am
