advice for being completely worthless how to get self worth?

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I need some advice on how to get self esteem.

I'm sick of being a useless talentless piece of s**t with no outstanding qualities, the people I love don't like me, Im completely uninteresting and dumb and moronic and mediocre and boring havent lived no life experience cant cope with life

Wish I was dead wish someone would stab the s**t out of me and mutilate me shoot me and burn the body.

I hate myself. I'm worthless and don't even deserve to be alive.

However suicide is a LOT more complicated than usually thought.

Unless there is a 100% chance of a painless death (shooting is out of the question, you can't get guns here easily) then i'm going to have to find a way to make life worth living.

I'm not here for sympathy, I don't deserve it. I let someone make me feel like the scum on the bottom of someones shoe and its ruined the little self worth I once had, so its either pick my fat, uselss pathetic arse out of the gutter or decapitate myself.

I am here for advice. I don't know what to do about this. There doesn't seem to be anything in the world thats going to make me feel like less of a complete worthless failure at life that I can think of.

Urgh. I just want to go and burn myself with a poker iron, rip out all my hair and have a whole lot of people just beat the s**t out of me.

First off, I'm not gonna ridicule you or criticize you, nor will anyone here. So don't come expecting/wanting it. We're here to understand, and to get others to understand us. You are obviously frustrated. Out of moral obligation, I'm gonna tell you to seek professional help. Out of personal obligation, I'm gonna tell you that you're only a worthless peice of s**t if you WANT to be. We all make mistakes. Lives can be tragic. But guess what? They're still lives. Instead of drowning in self-guilt, reflect upon what is making you feel the way you do, and find ways to avoid those issues in the future. The only people who fail in life are those who give up early, not realizing how close they were to winning. Don't do anything stupid. I am a complete stranger, and I actually give a damn. So don't think nobody cares.

I can tell you for a fact, that I felt like that at one time, when I started living in a group home 4 years ago, when my mom booted me in there. I felt absolutely worthless, wanted nothing to do with them, and got so depressed, somedays, I just felt like I couldn't take it anymore. Please hang in there, because things can get better.

May I just point out that, according to a vast number of people, your age is among the most difficult to cope with. But they also say it gets better. Blame biology. =P

I get really bad depression all the time--a few things usually help me.

Going out and getting some exercise. It is amazing how much this helps. For me, going out and running till I'm exhausted works wonders. At the very least I'll sleep better that night.

Reading a good book. Watching a favorite movie (or one you haven't seen).

Spoil yourself for a day--do something to distract yourself till things get better and you feel better.

Things will get better.

For how to get self-esteem; I'm honestly not really sure, but I think that it is more of a personal introspection thing: If you feel better about yourself you should have more self-esteem.

Hope this helps.

--David

I am wanting to know the same thing.

Ive been a dick to online poeple in the past and its not a reflection on them. It's a reflction on how f****d up I am.

If I can fix my problems hopefully I can avoid causing them for others.

I try to do the right thing, my aspergers site is up and running but im too depressed to do much on it.

how to get self esteem?
maybe try
exercise
eating nutrious foods and drinking plenty of water..
doing things you like to do
trying things that are new.

You don't sound like a useless talentless piece of s**t to me. In fact I know your not. No one is useless unless they help nobody and just bludge off the system. No one is talentless, they just have not found the talents they have and no ones a piece of s**t because otherwise we'd be flushed down the toilet . On the more serious side I think we all have a place and use in the universe, it's just finding it that's the problem. There may be obstacles obscuring our views and paths (such as horrible people, addiction, hormones etc) but if we find a way around those (except hormones, that one you just gotta wait for) then you'll find planet Earth isn't as bad a place as you think.

Excuse me why was my thread title edited? I wasn't attacking anyone bt myself. I don't like the new thread title, if it was going to be called that I would have called it something else.

Wrongplanet doesn't like swearing. My post will probably be edited too. Don't worry about it. You have much bigger things to worry about from the sounds of things

"Negative" Daniel:

You can always go to a shooting range and hire one of their guns and do the deed; I had a guy do it next to the stall I was in (not a pretty sight with a .357 Magnum pistol, but hey, I don't think he cared what his dead body looked like). But, I probably shouldn't mention this, as people don't like seeing suicide as a evacuation of the pain (people say it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem, but some problems aren't temporary at all). You could also dive head first off the tallest building you can find, that'd be equally painless.

"Positive" Daniel:

What do you want (a question you ask yourself)? Try and attain it, and if you can't, go on to the next want, and so on and so forth. People can say to make the most of the small things, and also the things you do have..., which would work if you liked the small things and the things you have. Just keep on moving, I suppose, and you might get/find something you want that'll make life worth living.

(I have no idea about self-esteem, really. As it tends to be innate and also made by life events and how much you prefer your own view over that of another's. Saying no a lot can help build it, but this happens when people make/ask you to do things you don't want to do.)

I am also feeling a huge lost of self esteem as a woman on this website, it seems geared towards the
male members, anyhow Hale you should never get so down on yourself, you have a hell of alot more
going for you the you let on. Your smart, have a sense of humor, and don't take crap from no one, I wish
I had as much going for me.

I don't have a huge amount of confidence but I have also managed to leave a lot of self hatred behind. I guess somewhere along the line I decided that what society tells us makes someone valuable is bogus. I was raised in a family that valued academics and intellectual pursuits. Those who's main focus was on money were regarded with disdain and there was a certain amount of intellectual snobbery. Then I realized that was just as arrogant as assessing someone's value by their bank account. If you don't regard someone's value by their money or their intellect or their beauty, what you have left is their level of wisdom and kindness. We all fail in that regard. Growing up is a life long process and most people don't even try. They never challenge themselves to develop. The way I look at it is no one is going to write about me in the history books but if I can live my life and make my choices that facilitate peace, wisdom and understanding even in a small way, then I have value. I'm not talking about solving world hunger, I'm talking about small everyday things. But for the record, I was surprised that this post came from you Hale-Bopp. It just goes to show you that these feelings can affect anybody. I know you only from your posts and I don't believe we've ever communicated but my impression of you has always been that you are a beautiful, vibrant and capable person. It seems to me that people here always respond very positively to you. They like you. I know that depression can cloud your perception of yourself. The truth is like the rest of us, you're not perfect, but if you are learning and growing and challenging yourself, your life has inherent value.