Just kind of need to vent...

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It's been snowing a lot recently, and me, my brother, my mum and a family friend decided to take a walk. We ended up at the local pub (i didn't have any alcohol), and after a while my little brother (poss. AS) and I decided to walk home. While we were walking home, we met my brother's friend. The kid was full of the high spirits that snow brings, and showed me and my brother a rude, erm, snow thing that someone had made. I was kind of umming and erring at this point. The snow thing was in somebody's front garden, but I don't think any of us realised as the snow was so deep we couldn't really tell. My brother's friend started hitting it with a shovel. I can see the childhood logic in this (rude=bad=get rid of it!) and as I didn't know it was in someone's garden, I didn't tell them off for it. Anyway, I didn't have time to.

A teenage girl from the house opened the door and started swearing profusely at my brother and his friend. She told them both to "put it back together". Then she said she would take my brother's friend's shovel off him, and hit him over the head with it. After that, she called into the house and told someone to "look at what these little brats had done." At this point I told the children "Just go," as I was beginning to get scared because of the threat. We all went away. The kids started running.

I'm angry with myself because as this was happening, i just kind of froze (not literally). I stood there and what was happening didn't register. In the end, I ran after the other kids like a coward. I should have said something like "Don't threaten them, they're just kids, they didn't realize." I wouldn't have been aggressive because that would have made the situation worse. But I just stood there like a useless object.

I'm sad because that girl swore at and threatened two innocent 8 year olds. My brother and his friend are two great kids, and that kind of thing shouldn't happen to them. Maybe my brother's friend was a little thoughtless, but he didn't deserve that kind of verbal abuse. I'm also quite frightened as I am never very good at telling whether someone is just mouthing off or really mean what they say. What if something like that happens again and somebody gets hurt?

I used to be scared to leave the house. My heart still starts thudding when I pass a group of teenagers. I'm starting to feel like that again now because if a person can treat kids like that, what could they do to me? I'm probably just being stupid, but I'm not used to that kind of thing and it shocked me. I was worried and anxious afterwards and informed my mum, and the other kid's mum. The kid's mum thanked me and said I did the right thing, but I'm not so sure.

I'm going to say friend's Mum is right.
And add that your friend's behavior is not your responsibility.

Yeah, the thing out front kind of broadcast the caliber of individual you'd find dwelling there.

That girl wasn't my friend, I'd never met her. But thank you. You have to be a pretty nasty person to say that kind of thing to kids, I reckon.

I'm over it now. lol

maybe you should take up a martial art or assertiveness training to give you more confidence. I can't talk, I need to do it too as i have the same anxiety problems you do. I've heard that (unless you learn genuine self defence) the martial arts dont really give you good skills you could use for a real fight, but the experience of sparring with people and facing them in class makes you feel more confident.