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Dodus
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21 Dec 2009, 3:22 am

It started at work, same as any other day... I didn't really talk to anyone and when I tried I just got the same looks.
I usually don't let that bother me, I expect it, but I feel like I cant do this anymore.
I'm always trying to be the voice of reason, I try to help my friends with almost any problem they have and it makes me happy to help them.
But I know half the things I feel I'm faking, it just builds up and up and up until i want to scream.
I don't feel like my problems are worth anyone's time, every time I try to talk about them I end up feeling bad and just walking away.
Even now I feel like I'm wasting peoples time with this...


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21 Dec 2009, 3:57 am

I have felt that way my whole life. I help people with their problems and have no one to listen to mine.
It is frustrating. But I have learned to say, 'oh,well', get on with life, and solve my own problems for good or bad. It can make you a stronger person because you rely on yourself and what is best for you.


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21 Dec 2009, 4:10 am

In the United Kingdom, we have the Samaritans. They're just there for people to talk to, whether you feel stress from work, really angry at your family, etc. Do you have an equivalent in the US? It seems strange, but it really does help, being able to talk to a human being, at least just to take the edge off things.



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21 Dec 2009, 5:35 am

As far as I know the only thing we have here are therapists, and the ones I can afford just throw a pill bottle at me and tell me to deal with it...


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21 Dec 2009, 5:42 am

SilentScream wrote:
Do you have an equivalent in the US?

1-800-SUICIDE?


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21 Dec 2009, 5:46 am

DavidK wrote:
SilentScream wrote:
Do you have an equivalent in the US?

1-800-SUICIDE?


Is that a number that you know, or are you being funny?

America's such a big place, and I am sure with approximately the same percentage of people who want to help as we have in the UK, so there should be some helplines available, even if not as uniform across that huge country as we have in the much smaller UK.



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21 Dec 2009, 5:51 am

DavidK wrote:
SilentScream wrote:
Do you have an equivalent in the US?

1-800-SUICIDE?


I don't think I would go as far as killing myself.. I just want to talk to somebody who wont try to fix it with a pill.


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22 Dec 2009, 4:45 am

SilentScream wrote:
Is that a number that you know, or are you being funny?

It's a helpline. I'm not trying to be funny.


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22 Dec 2009, 5:47 am

A Church pastor or church elder.


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22 Dec 2009, 6:55 am

Talk to me about it. I'll listen to anyone who needs to talk. I have ears the size of Russia heh.