can't feel happy

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No matter how hard I try, I just can't make myself feel truly happy. Any happiness I do feel just feels artificial, like I shouldn't be happy.

The only thing that feels right is the unending loneliness...

You remind me of myself, so I know that no amount of pep talks is going to make you feel better.

Here are your options:

Write really sappy songs about loneliness (I was never good at that but whatever)

Try to find ways to make the world a better place.

Take meds

Give up on happiness

There is a deep emptiness in all humans. That's why people strive always striving for a better life or getting wasted or following some delusional dreams, delusional relationships.....There probably isn't a person in the world that is so wonderful that they will take all of your pain away. So now you are at the beginning-empty, lonely or whatever you want to call it. Now what? I'm not dismissing your feelings, but I have been and in some ways still am where you are.

'Striving' is my least favorite activity because there is no end to it.

Do understand that concept.
Got no answers.

Like your sig line.

Who ever gained anything by striving for nothing? I mean I agree that it sucks, but for me "striving" for something in the future is still way better than complacency. I've found that personal "balance" cannot be achieved by just finding some kind of middle ground and camping out there. You're either moving forward or backward with every decision, sentiment, action, etc., and you can only stay on the "positive" side of things if the collective importance of the "forward" movements exceed the weight of the "backward".

Granted, I am 27 years old and did not really comprehend that until like 25 1/2, so I don't really have any long-term support for the notion, but it's been a positive philosophy for me going forward thus far...

I think I'm depressed so perhaps I was being a bit cynical and absolute?

Really all I meant is that you have to accept your circumstances and go with the flow. I am finished with trying to force myself to be what I'm not.

You don't try to be happy. You decide to do stuff you think could be fun, then go and do it. Enjoying it and the happiness is a cool side effect.