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Hi, im no good with introductions so im going to get down to it. Me and my mother were diagnosed with aspergers syndrome back in 2003, and neither of us like my father. They divorced in june of last year, and since then she has been living across the street from me and my dad. Since her house is too small I am unable to live with her. but this is about how my dad keeps telling her that she needs to come back to "keep the family together". My mother has just recently told me that he said to her that she should not have gone to live by herself and that he was just trying to get my mom to beg to come back. but you see since may of '09, I have installed a keylogger virus onto my fathers macintosh. and in his computer I have found that he chats to exotic girls that he met when he was a mormon missionary in chile, not to mention the pictures I have found... And so my mom wants to bring that up with him, but she does not want him to know how she got the information. and now I come here asking for advice. oh and my mother has an accoun here too. I think its Aloneinacrowd I forget the name but her real name is Gigi. Please help us!

I know how you feel as far as not likeing you're Dad but im surprised you dont draw the line somewhere else when it comes to his privacy. Im in no way qualified to gie advice about something like this except for the fact that I'm a dude and I know that for men love and sex are too seperate things. atleast for me. the signifigance of that to this is that your father's conversing on line with the strippers doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't emotionally care for your mother any more. I mean just because you love someone doesnt mean the thought of being with another cant turn you on does it?
That aside, if your mother feels like your dad's computer habits mean she and your father cant be together she should just not be with him without telling him why. I have never been married but my mother and father have been separated all my life and I really think all of our lives are better because of it.

well mabey I should have added that my mom has this fear of being alone in life witch is why she only moved across the street from us. and my dad pretty mutch has always had a thing for cheating on her in some way be it physicaly or over the net. and the only reason I put a virus on my dads machine was because she asked me to. im just asking what she should do.

well... Being with someone because your afraid of being alone is no reason to be with anyone. even if they are your child's parent. Really I don't know what she SHOULD do but what she definitely SHOULDN'T do is get back with your Dad because it seems like they don't love each other any more and it sounds like he doesn't appreciate or respect her too much. I think your Dad only wants her back because he's accustomed to being with her and he doesn't have confidence in his ability to find anyone else. It seems like your mother is motivated by similar feelings.

Although I don't think I'm really the person to ask about this sort of thing. But no one else seems to want to touch this issue with a ten foot pole. I hope you've found my input helpful somehow.

hey believe it or not I think the problem worked its self out. (dont ask me how ) But their getting back together. But thanks anyway for the reply's.