I feel... so sad..

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I don't feel so good, I feel so derpess. I feel like the whole world is shootin me.

You see, I upsetted a friend by a joke in a friendly way, now I feel Like she doesn't talk to me ever since then I felt my life fell apart.

I do want to say sorry to her but I don't have the courage to say sorry even if I did. She won't even give me to the time to say sorry to her. All she say when I say sorry is that I don't even know what I'm saying sorry about.

Darn it.. What's wrong with me? Why do I feel so confused and upset at myself over a little thing?

Just help me please .

Well, this time you do know what you are sorry about, so maybe text her and say you're really sorry for offending her and you were only trying to be funny. If she refue to accept your apology, then that's her problem, but I definitely think you should try.

What was the joke? If you want to post it, we can probably tell you where you went wrong or if your friend is overreacting.

The joke is: she gets hyper when she drinks a energy drink (e.g Red bull)

I joking went "I like to drink red bull with her sometime" Cause I never tried it and now I think she hates me :/

Dang... friendship never goes well with me, sometimes I prefer to be left alone when I think about my kindness...

I am kind... but ... I guess I'm not kind enough.

Well... I'm not sure if I'd call it a joke, but it doesn't seem offensive. Maybe your tone of voice upset her or something

Are you definitely sure she is upset with you? What was her response to what you said?

She said "leave me alone >:("

We were on facebook

Weird How good friends were you before you left the comment?

Good Friends

It depends upon what you consider good friends.

I have often considered people to be good friends, when in fact, they thought
differently. I would base it upon time spent together, and the efforts that I had
put into the relationship. For example, I used to count one woman as my good
friend. We knew each other for about 4 years. My daughter and I were invited
to spend Thanksgiving at the home of her family for 2 of those years. Her mother
knitted me a beautiful afghan for Christmas one year. I could go on, but the
weird thing was that she abruptly stopped communicating with m. I wrote her a
few times, but got no reply. It hurt deeply for years. But it just goes to show you,
with Aspies and friendships, one can never be sure!

I'm afraid so. It sounds in this case that maybe she doesn't consider the pair of you to be all that good friends, or at least doesn't appreciate you commenting on her homepage.

Just a thought though, did you ay anything that could have upset her before that comment? Her reply was quite harsh considering how inoffensive your post was, and I cannot imagine a friend writing replying like that unless there was another issue going on from previously.

I haven't wrote anything that upset her before.

And on a scale of 1-10 I say a 8 on our friendship

This sounds like something that could have been misinterpreted as a sexual joke.
If she's NT then she might have picked up on it as a crude and creepy remark that you had noticed an increased activity in her when she drinks it and then followed with "I like to drink red bull with her sometime" which could be understood as if you'd like to drink some Red Bull and stay up all night and have sex.

That's my take on it, and she might have gotten it like that and felt you crossed the line.
Just tell her in a PM (private message) on Face Book that you didn't mean it like that.

Actually, yeah that could be it. Does she become more 'flirty' when she gets hyper?

I would just say sorry. If she is a true friend then this will all blow over.

In the end I said sorry to her.

And she forgived me

I told her that I was trying to find ways to say sorry to her like asking you helpful people.

She felt a little guilty because I went all that way to say sorry to her.

Thank you so much guys I feel so happy, I couldn't do it without you

If there was button to get you rep or respect or something I would have given all of you guys one

MinatoTea

Glad things worked out

cool