Mom saw me upset for the 1,000th time!

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She this time threatened to have me put in the ER and backeracted. She's tired of my meltdown stuff over the school issue and say I need to get over it etc stuff for the billionth time etc. Just wanted to see your comments from what she said.

Not exactly the most constructive communication exchange there. Hopefully she was just frustrated and venting and she'll apologize about it, I wouldn't want this to become a habit. But I guess you have to decide how you feel about it. I wouldn't allow my mother to speak to me that way, but I don't care about her, so that's the difference. If it was someone that I actually have feelings for, then I would talk it through and be forgiving of them if they were remorseful.

What's the Baker Act? I've heard of this before, but I don't really know what it is. I understand that the consequences are pretty severe. In California we have "5150" where they throw you in the bin for three days as a "cooling off period". The big thing there is that you can't buy a gun for several years afterwards. Usually a 5150 has to be approved by a shrink. It's only done if somebody is really dangerous, and is really gonna hurt themselves. I had it done to me when I was 18. When I had my nervous breakdown after 9-11 I avoided it because every mental case in five or six counties was going off and the hospitals were full, so they told my mom to just watch me for a while. She took me to her place and unplugged all the TVs. Zelda, you're letting this school thing ruin your life, and if you really can't get over it, you DO need help! It sounds like you have a real problem.

My mother used to threaten me with mental hygiene all the time. I do not talk to her any more, haven't in over seven years. Most of the people on this board though that does not seem to be an option. So if she does it again, point out that it is emotional abuse.

wow, does that bring back memories! My parents did that to me without any warning. I was in an actual 'mental institution' for 9 months over the deal until I was given a day pass and I was gone! it was rough for the first 20 years, learning to live on my own, but I got used to it.

You count?

If someone I loved was having daily crying meltdowns for 5 years straight, I might consider whether their mental health problem was more than I could help them with at home, too. Your mother's voiced impatience and frustration is probably because she feels bad and conflicted--she doesn't want you to be unhappy, doesn't want you to be hospitalized, but also can't help you feel better herself.

I'm actually getting worried about you.... Hasn't it been like a long time though since its been happening?

I've been there crying over and over again for 4 months and that was like after I got dumped once which was in the summer holidays which then a month later decided to join wrongplanet to get my life into shape and save myself from falling apart, its actually kinda worked for me.

Sorry sins to hear about your story of being in a mental institution... I actually kinda feel bad about it.

It was the early 60's in Kansas, superboyian. Life was very different then. No one at the institution had any idea what my problem seemed to be as only Kanner's autism had been studied in the States. I was considered obstreperous and wayward, and since I was obviously intelligent, my seeming refusal to be 'normal' was obviously intentional and a challenge to my parents and law enforcement personnel. My parents had me arrested and placed in jail with thieves and prostitutes before a social worker realized I had no street smarts or defense against them and had me transferred to the mental institution, instead. I was 17 and date rape was always the girls responsibility and the girl was faulted if they could not keep it from happening. Like I said, a whole different life back then.

Merle