Why God her why not me?

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Has anyone asked yourself Why God her why not me? A month after my grandfather died and member of the church choir died as well. She was 35 years old. She was married, had 2 young daughters, two masters degrees, a loving family especially loving aunts and uncles, tons of friends, and a great career. Me? I have none of those. I have no friends. I did have a boyfriend, but he used me the whole time. He was enlisted in the Navy, and dad was an officer. I have found that many people with learning disabilities or autism disorders do tend to get used a lot. My aunts and uncles on dad's side couldn't care less about me. When I talk to them on phone, their voice always sounds as if they don't want to talk to me. I never asked them if they love me. Oh and then my cousin on my dad's side. That's another story. She thinks she's better than me because she's married and has kids. Does marriage really mean that person is better and happier than singles? Just the other day I was looking through Youtube and the videos I saw was sad. People have actually videotaped a private viewing of a deceased loved one. I saw one and it made me sad. I want to be in that casket too. I want to be with God. I want this pain to end.

Are you saying this woman's life was worth more than yours because she has kids and/or a university degree? Well, it isn't. Everyone's equal, and some people die before others. There are kids dying every day.

I agree, wishing yourself dead because you feel less worthy of life isn't really a way to honor your God, is it? I mean, who are you to judge?

I would leave it all to the plan of your Creator, Anna. And be grateful they had their lives as you have yours.

Merle

Death seems very bittersweet to me b/c it brings sadness to those who are left behind, but it brings relief from the pains of life to the deceased and it just a part of "the circle of life" (lion king reference). I don't think anyone who is living can judge if/who is worth more than someone else. Nothing is wrong with you b/c you are single, etc. The timing of the woman's death is unfortunate but maybe you could try to look at it as the reason you are still living is b/c something is else is meant to come into your life before you (and everyone else) pass(es) on .

Before humans occupied this planet, dinosaurs were here for 160 million years - even now we're outnumbered in the billions by spiders and cockroaches. If the creator of this world has a favored species, its probably not us. God may turn out to look like a lizard or a bug.



Like you, I have many days when I am seriously convinced that winking out like a television screen forever would be a sweet release from this valley of sorrows. But if I really think about it, I can recall having had moments of happiness in this life...and knowing that everything runs in cycles, I have to hold out hope that moments like that will come round again, if we just hold on (and they always do eventually). I'm in the Intelligent Design camp, but I also believe horrible things happen so we can appreciate the wonderful things. And for all the horrid people and ugly events, there are angels among us - individuals and unexpected blessings who make suffering through the Hell worthwhile after all. The Aspie brain seems to tend toward the morbid and negative and amplify it; we kind of have to train ourselves to look for the positives, so we don't end up stewing in our own despair and impatience.

Take a deep breath, find something positive to focus on and stay here with us - the pain will pass in a bit. And try to get some sun, the Seasonal Affective Disorder can be murder through the winter months. Seriously, anytime the sun's out, go for a walk, you won't believe how much that can help. And stop watching funeral videos for gods' sakes, no wonder you're down - people are animals, you can't dwell on their stupidity, it'll drive you crazy. Chin up, we're here for you - just don't let the pain cause you to overreact.

I have asked myself this many times. People died who were actually useful human beings. and yet I am still here.

I am partly afraid to 'get happy' for this reason, because I know that then I will get cancer and die.

I have heard this saying about life.

when you are born you get 2 bags
one bag with luck in it and the other bag is empty. the trick is to fill the empty bag with as many experiences as you can before your luck runs out.

God is a beetle.
There are more species of beetle than there are of any other kind of animal.
How many species of human are there?
One.
Maybe God is a gigantic beetle that lives in a world where the oxygen percentage in the sky is about 80-95%
That would make him live like never before.

Well, the old saying goes, "The good die young" . . . could mean any number of things. Some stories are tragedies, others are triumphs . . . the only ones who determine fates of people are gods (to those that believe) and novel writers. I lost my closest grandmother at the age of 7 and has since been the only person i cared enough about to cry about the loss of. That aside, the one true fact of life is that which begins must invariably end . . . how and when that end comes about is unknown (save for if you know what you're getting yourself into). Ive learned to keep in mind that if we die "here," that just means it was our time to find out what is on the other side. Admittedly, i teeter on the line between agnostic and atheist because i honestly dont see enough proof one way other the other . . . I also know that how we live is entirely up to us, yet the decisions of others often hinge on being helpful or harmful to that goal. One person is a thread, but all humanity (and life for that matter) is a tapestry, and for that tapestry some threads are cut shorter than others, but the grand scheme is a glorification of all its parts. Feeling sorrow and pain are difficult . . . but be glad you can feel them for being numb is not something you would want.