Crazy State of Mind

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I recently lost someone very close to me. He had battled cancer for a long time, so it wasn't a complete shock, but it was still horrible.

I've lost a will to move on or get out in the world.

And this is the first time I've wanted a drink, just so I can stop thinking and feeling for a little while.

I recently put a bag on my head and sniffed a bottle of nail polish before I realized how crazy what I was doing was.

Help!

Grief is very hard, but there is no escape from it. You can take drugs or alcohol but that is only a temporary distraction from your problems. The pain isn't gone but just masked. Huffing is very dangerous- people sometimes die from doing it just once. I went to school one day when I was in sixth grade and there was a dead kid in the bushes who had been huffing.

I am very sorry you feel this pain. I have lost loved ones and I know how it feels-it is very hard to find consolation and very hard for other to console you too. I bet there are grief counselors and maybe hot lines in your area if you are very despondent. DOnt hesitate to look one up.

Have you ever had problems with alcohol or drugs before? If so, call an AA chapter. They probably have experience talking people down form relapses after a tragic loss.

I wish I could help more- all I can offer is my heartfelt sympathy and encourage you to seek help from a professional who would be much better at this than I.

Hang in there. Things will improve, over time.

You should go on a brief course of fluoxetine (Prozac or other SSRI), say for a month or two.

OOooof. I snuffed something once. I had a panic attack afterword. I'd say alcohol is safer. But sometimes, it makes you even more depressed. It makes me depressed, even when I was in my regular neutral mood. So, careful. I don't think it dulls anything, just relaxes you. It can bring out hidden emotions. (Actually, I have had some interesting, sometimes emotional revelations whilst drunk.) I wish you the best. You still have your life. You must live, I think. (Easier said than done, sometimes, I know.) You seemed to have loved your friend very much . That is nice. It is always very difficult losing someone you love.

A good 10-12 hour sobfest, followed by a few weeks of curling into a fetal position on the shower floor and sobbing until the hot water runs out as needed for maintenance. Oh, wait... that's for divorce.

Just imagine how upset you'd be if you were in a divorce.

I'm sorry, I am not good with the whole death thing. It is, well, pretty much a fact. You know the status and state of the person and they are usually not still looking and sounding like someone you love, except from the mirror dimension. That's what the evil undead and ex-wives do.

You can miss someone, but really they are still in your memory. All drugs and alcohol do is mess with that memory and your judgement. Don't try to medicate away your grief, accept it, recognize it, process it. And in the meantime, take care of yourself. You are depressed. Think of something you enjoy doing for others that they think is special, such as cooking them a meal, or taking them out to dinner (ok, I like food) or building them something. Then do it for yourself. If you can do it for others you should be able to do it for yourself. Do it. Clean some house, too. Your environment can have a big impact on your moods.