My best friend just quit on me.

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Just gone. She doesn't like me any more. She said that I was changing who she was, and that she used to love me, but now she's back to her old, real, self and she doesn't want to be my friend anymore. I don't think she's going to change her mind. I'm so depressed about it. I don't know what to do. She just changed her mind, without any warning at all. Now I'm alone. I love her but now she's gone. I'm going to see her one more time, and then that's it.

I'm sorry to hear that. That must be really upsetting for you.

Have you any idea what she meant when she said that you were 'changing who she was'?

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. I've been through the same thing twice and it's not fun.

I am sorry as well. I know this pain all too well.

Maybe give her some time to cool off, and tell her that you're still interested in being friends with her and ask her if she could tell you more specifically what it is that upset her. But be aware that the answer might be pretty painful. My roommate and I had a similar discussion about 6 months ago, and while we were once becoming kind of close, now we're very distant.

It may be that SHE, in fact, has changed. People are very difficult to understand.

I am sorry to hear that. I have went through the same thing on a few occasions and it isn't fun.

A lot of times I have found out that friendship is based on human dynamics. It isn't necesarly the person that you are friends with that has nothing to do with you, but much rather because another person has entered their life or taken on a different role in their life and upsets the apple cart to to speak.

Also friendship is a grass is greener on the other side type game that people play. Who ever is the best person at the moment for somebody, is whom will your friend. When someone else comes along that seems more interesting or has more benefits to them, a person will move on to that person. All of a sudden the frienship lessens or disolves.

What I do recommend doing is finding hobbies, activities, events or volunteering that meets your interests. It has been a great way for me to meet friends/ acquanitances, give me some social standing, and has taught me valuable social skills.

I suppose this is why I have been keeping what amounts to a psychological blog of myself - to give my self perspective on how I have changed.

I have never had somebody change their mind like that, but I have drifted away from someone - twice. The second time I realized why it happened in the first place. So even if it ultimately doesn't work out, you can still learn from the experience and move on.

I have been doing this the last year or so. It has been a very valuable learning experience regarding how my life has been affected with AS. In my case, most of the terminated friendships were due to stressful life changes that the person was making at the time, my obsessiveness toward the person or their situation, and the fact that I had unrealistic expectations of how the friendship should be. In a couple of the situations, I intervened in the person's life due to a personal problem that they were facing more than I probably should of.

Strangely enough, most of these people have not totally cut me off, but they either put barriers up or make it akward for me to contact them (ie: denying Facebook friend requests, not returning emails or telephone calls, etc).

I've been through the same thing, many times before, in my past. It's a very painful thing to go through. The last time that it happened to me, was a little over three years, ago on this site.

"Real me" is garbage. Humans are not static. The alleged realness excuses nothing.

I'm sorry. I had this happen almost 4 yrs ago with a guy I really loved. It sucks cause I still have to work with him and see him every day. But we never talk anymore.

My best friend about 10 years ago decided to bail out on the friendship, cause it was becoming a liability to be seen around me. I was just too weird for the NTs to tolerate.

Though in hindsight, this was probably a good thing - he ended up becoming a cokehead and an alcoholic. Better off I didn't get swept up in his new found circle of friends.

Very sorry to hear that. Hang in there!!

Sorry to hear about that "metelz" it has happened to me many times in the past, she probably could be regretting what she is done or maybe she could be upset about something, do you even know why?

Just keep strong about it, I'd be happy to be anyone's friend.


- superboyian.

It could be that age- I see you are 17, which is right on the edge of adulthood. There are a lot of changes, and one of you may have outgrown the other. I know this doesn't make it better, but you may find she just needs some time to think about things. It could be a time for you to think about things too. I hope you two have a talk about it soon.

Not to sound cold, but she must not have been a REAL friend if she said that too you. Like everyone else, I am sorry to hear about this. People treat each other badly for no reason, and the crap always falls on some one.