feel like sometimes people dont understand how we feel

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In December last yr my cousin came out from USA and they went on a trip around Australia visiting various people they got to visit a lot of family my aunt, my uncle, my mum but not me every family member in australia except me in fact. When I tried to bring it up with my cousins husband I basically felt like I was dismissed by being told it wasn't personal, they have a kid etc. He also keeps saying it was nice of me to take my grandma to their daughters birthday party that is irrelivent Had they not visited one of those people I would have felt differently I did let it go for a while until just yesterday when i felt more able to write something I wrote him a message saying that I did take it personal, that i was upset and that i was disappointed because i felt like he always was sensitive to peoples feelings but not over this it is like they cant see why I am upset but I feel I have a right to be.

You have every right to feel upset.

That said, there are possibilities like:
- they didn't value you enough to visit you
- they did value you, but only visited one relative per area, and expected nearby relatives to join in
- they did value you, but only visited more relatives more "senior" to them, i.e. aunties, uncles, and expected nearby relatives to join in

Are variations of the latter two possibilities possible?