my living situation is unbearable & not going to change

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there is nothing I can do about it. It sucks. I am supposed to start school in a month, & be at it for 2 years. I can't explain what is going on because it will take all day, it's other people's issues that I am being effected by. There is just way too much going on. It is for the reasons of AS that I am overwhelmed with it. I just need to express that right now. I feel like I am crashing and burrning. I thought it was bad back in the fall of last year, now it is REALLy bad but has nothing to do with me. I'm completely bummed out. The person that could change things, theonly one, won't do it because they are not equipped to be assertive. The whole thing is making me sick and I am afraid I am going to get phsically sick.

Is there something you can do to help yourself relax? It won't fix the problem but it might make you feel better and handle it without getting so sick. I've got a friend who has a special chair she goes to when she's overwhelmed (which is anytime she's been around people, even if she likes them and had a good time). She sits in that chair and has a cold glass of milk. Is there something that might work for you the way that works for you?

When I've been in situations like that, it was really helpful for me to leave and then to seek therapy to do some repair work on the stress. You can patch things up with warm milk if things aren't too bad, but if you are being constantly overwhelmed, you're going to need more of a break. Even if you don't think you can leave, investigate what resources you have available to you, like support structures at your school (health clinics, financial aid, job banks, dorms, etc.). Sometimes you're in a better position than you assume at first.

thanks so much you guys for responding, I came back not expecting any responses and I am so amazed & gratified people care about my problems. Today has been rough. I can't fix this and the only person who could fix it won't but they are willing to dump all over me about how bad it is. It sucks.

But you guys are right I need to look into getting support for myself. I am thinking about going to coda (codependents anonymous) so i can work on boundaries and taking care of myself in this hole that my parents have dug for themselves that they are ill-equipped to deal with. (I live on their land & am being affected by some family they inviited to live here.)