Help! I'm feeling overloaded and need some friendship.

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I'm feeling really overloaded with work. I am working a 6 day week in 5 days. I know I should cut down the hours but one of my jobs stops for holidays soon (for 2 months). Besides I can't afford to stop working so much. My situation is being made worse because I barely see my partner and when I do I cannot understand how he is feeling because we don't have anytime to talk about this. I feel like he has lost interest in me but I don't know because we don't really get to spend time together.
Also new person has started working with me and is not used to me and does not know me. I have tried to explain how I work best but she just turns her nose up at me as if I am stupid. She keeps leaving notes with vague messages that I don't understand and then trying to discuss them with me when I am in the middle of doing several other things and then saying 'Well I discussed that with you!', but she didn't she just talked at me. The notes say things like 'Calls?' What does that mean? Does she want me to call them or have they been called or register these people as calling? . How do I ask her to stop leaving vague notes. I kind of blurted out a stressed reation to her and got the same upturned nose response today. How do I exlplain without feeling stupid? Also how do I ask them to turn down the radio without coming accross as stuffy. They have different time schedules to me and I can't block out the noise from it when they turn it on during their breaks. If even quiet music comes on it gets in my brain and shuts down my speach, I work answering telephone inquiries so this is a real problem for me. I say 'Do you mind me turning this down a little? They say 'no' Then I turn it down so they can't even hear it. They both look at me and laugh. Am I being paranoid about the situation? I'm feeling really uncomforable about it. I love music too but I just can't talk and listen to it at the same time.

Sounds to me like your new workmate is a bit of a snob

Im pretty sure anyone in your position would feel stressed i mean 6 days work in 5 that sounds hard but then im still in school so ive yet to exsperience "work" But yeah sure the whole vague messages thing can be solved by talking just say like can you please exsplain yourself when leaving notes?

If you want to talk about it with me then i'll be happy to listen

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hm wow. that's rough. i haven't had much work experience yet but i do know how some people can be at school.

yea just like mouldy said, ask that person to explain the notes. that might help.

Anyone would be stressed trying to squash 6 days of work into 5.
U should not feel stupid for trying to explain how you work best, there are some people in a lot of offices (and other workplaces) that are just snobs.
You should politely(and calmly)(do this during a quieter time of the day) request that she leave detailed messages for you.
as for the radio thing, can it be put someplace where u can't hear it?
A chat to your boss would be a good idea if your workmate continues to be unreasonable.

This reminds me of when I was spending my work breaks, with a bunch of snobs, at the factory. All that they cared about, was hair, clothes, relationships and boys. They kept on asking me personal questions, and I knew that they were using my answers, as a measure. I've ended up not trusting normal young women, my age or younger. It was horrible. Even to this day, I cringe when I see a young NT female, or a group of them walking towards me.

I can very much relate to your situation, as i've had similar difficulties with radio sound in my work area.

Be persistent. The workplace is where many people's lives meet. So be prepared with your methods for dealing with this and ignore any snickering. Getting what you want clearly matters.

I can think of three approaches. The first is to carry on as you are, asking to turn the radio down. Or go to the boss and make it a request for permanent change. It is not your job to make the workplace comfortable for your co-workers.

The second is to stop the noise at your ears. Depending on the way things are wired, you can get headsets that block out all sound. They have to be manually inserted into each ear, and you will hear virtually nothing from your surroundings. Not very social. And the ear plug fitting can get uncomfortable after 30 minutes or so. There are designs which a have microphone included, as I say, it depends on how things are wired at your workplace, as to whether or not this option is possible. Also, would you be happy with total silence when you're not speaking on the phone?

The third approach that I can think of is to change your job. Easier said than done, I know.

As for your boyfriend, I think thats either something reasonably simple (either make more time to be together, or ask him what he thinks/feels about it), or a whole other can of worms to be opened in the Love and Dating section