A friend of mine who is also aspie is 22 (almost 23) and is really keen to move out of home. however she is having some issues with her parents at the moment I don't know them all that well but have got to know them recently and can tell they are very over protective. Also my upbringing is different I have been brought up to not be scared or overly concerned beyond what is obviously needed when it comes to safety and security. I was allowed to catch the train home by myself at liek 14-15. I won't lock the doors when I am in my house during the day (but will at night) even then mum and my stepdad thinks that locking the security door isn't needed because it is a "fire hazard" so I didn't for a long time although do now. My friend wanted to share a place by looking on the internet and the papers etc and her parents put the fear of god into her about being murdered, someone putting a gun to your head, a knife etc. I shared with strangers for ages and sure had a few issues but nothing too bad and my parents never discouraged it in fact they saw it as a good thing. Thousands of people share every year and despite a few minor issues it goes fine. Yes you need to be careful, yes you need to take precautions, yes you need to get to know people but being over the top about it in the way her parents are is unhealthy and not helping her at all. Sure very occasionally someone might get murdered in a share situation but it is so rare and very unlikely. I know it isn't my business to get involved in how they treat her but I don't want her to overly concerned other than what is obviously needed in a share type situation etc.
30 Apr 2010, 8:22 am
