What's the point?

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Okay, me and my girlfriend wanted to plan this date again and we wanted to see each other but for some reason its always up to my mum to decide that I want to go and it just never works, it only worked once.

Why is everyone so protective when it comes to me but when my rest of the siblings, its like, oh you can do this, go on then and all that, but when it comes to me, oh you will have to wait, you can't unless I go and that.

Now my girlfriends mum is like lets go to the cinema but she would always have to come as she can't go on her own, I mean, what is the whole point in the first place, I really don't see this even working out anymore? I really don't want to dump her but its getting to the point where its becoming pointless being together (which is really the last thing on my mind at the moment).

We never hardly get to see each other much anymore and my mum and her mum hates the daylights out of each other and I can't bare it as it is affecting our relationship.

I don't know what to do anymore?

So your are not allowed to see your girlfriend unless your mother goes with you? and your Mother hates her mother?

sheesh.

I guess your mother is more protective of you because of your condition (I assume you either have autism or AS?) which totally bites. You are 18 years old and should be allowed to see your girlfriend without having to have a parent there.

What to do?
To show that she can trust you, plan a date and tell her your plans say where you are going to go, what you are going to do and what time you will be back and stick to your plans. If she does give you this opportunity and you do what you say you will do, maybe she will see that letting you go out without a parent around won't be a massive disaster.

And the fact that the mothers hate each other. It is their problem, not your fault. It would be a good idea for you and your GF to sit down with them together and explain how their hatred is affecting your relationship and request that they either deal with it or keep it between the two of them. The negative feeling should not ruin your relationship.

Best wishes.

You're 18 (and I assume your girlfriend is a similar age), and your mum's still trying to run your life. That just isn't right. You need to talk to her about it, tell her you're an adult and need to make your own decisions and take more control of your life.

You should talk to your mum and tell her to let you go on your dates, alone and that you're an adult and you expect to be treated like one. However, do it in the nicest way possible.