I feel completly alone in the world.

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I hope my life isn't always like this.

Y? and what is your life like?

mine is. I share it with a cat. animals help. I would kill for my cat.

You have us here. You might be able to find a live group, or start one on your own (keep it casual, and please don't have a board of directors for at least the first year).

You have different groups, the Sierra club and their hikes are okay.

One thing I've really enjoyed are political groups. I'm a left-leaning Democrat, but I have attended Republican groups and have introduced myself as a "moderate and independent." A little bit shopping the competition, but mainly playing poker without looking at my cards (which I'll be happy to explain later). And interesting, I find I have more in common with the Republicans than with people who are just uninterested in the whole thing! (went half by accident the first time to a Republican group, and just kept going)

I felt the same way, when I was your age. None of my peers wanted to be friends, with me. Life has gotten easier for me, since I've graduated from college and gotten myself out of a bad job situation, at the age of 25. Now life is a breeze for me, and I have friends who understand and accept me, as I am.

I used to feel that way, too.

Bummer, really.

It would be easy to feel that way now working in a job situation like mine with people who have personal grudges because I can't do the so-called NT thing the way they want.

But then I remember my recovery literature and how it warns against self-pity...how it's one of the most destructive of defects. I am reminded on a daily basis of how that defect gets me to look at everything that isn't going right while ignoring all the positives.

Heeding this advice helps me maintain some sense of balance - especially when something goes wrong or I end up at odds with someone because they think I'm odd or a social misfit. I maintain the understanding that I have a choice as to whether or not I allow people, places, and/or situations to rent space in my head.

In the end, I allow myself to enjoy life a little more.

"I feel completely alone in the world"

Me too!

ok jests aside, this is meant to prove a point. You are not alone. You only feel alone. you are not the only one who feels alone.

If you feel alone by yourself, well. thats normal. you are alone.

If you feel alone in a group of people, well. maybe that is because 1. they are not the right group of people. or 2. your trying to be something your not.

If it is 1. try to find a better group of people ( the internet is great for this)

If it is 2. (and I cant say this enough) Stop pretending!. just be you. (assuming your not putting your self or anyone else in danger)
who cares if your a little weird? everyone is a little weird. (if you dont believe me try asking the people you know if they can do any "stupid human tricks".)

the only way to not feel alone is to first accept that you are alone. (its ok really) and then go find people who dont make you feel like an outsider.

I absolutely agree. Never try to be something you're not just to "fit in"--it never works.

There are people who will accept you for who you are. For example, people on this board.

There will also be people IRL who will accept you for who you are. I never thought that was possible for me, either, but it did happen.

Better to be alone for real (by yourself) than alone with others (I have tried to tell this to some people I know, btw--they don't always get it). You will eventually find (or they will find you ) the ones with whom you feel "in good company."

Ditto.

I can't really bring myself to act around people I'd like to consider friends but the real "me" underneath the masquerade isn't someone that I can really bring out and show the world, I feel the world would scorn me and thus make the situation worse, so for the time being I hide myself, and wait for the like minded to come along.

And I'd add just the sheer luck of the draw. For example, let's say you're interested in kayaking and start attending a local club. The leader may be overwhelmed with organizational and procedural tasks, and not have the energy left to actually build the group (this is frequently the case with college groups). And if the group only meets once a month, it may never get the traction going to really take off. So, you haven't done anything wrong, the group just hasn't panned out.

So, visit a number of groups with a light touch. Be ready to ping pong it back and forth, but don't over invest. One thing in particular, I'd really recommend visiting as a guest at least two or three times, or more, before going ahead and joining.

This is why I would really love to see the site and its members find more ways to get people here to meet each other. People really aren't as alone as they think.

I like alot of you guys suggestions, but it's hard to meet new groups when you don't have a car and your parents aren't very helpful at all.