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I just feel like I'm not welcome in my own home anymore. I feel that my parents do little to understand my condition, and they even assume that because I don't do something RIGHT AWAY that I'm never going to do it ever. I have made so many mistakes in just the past couple of months and I feel like I'm trapped. I don't have a lot of friends, let alone any close ones. The only person I'm really close to is my girlfriend, but right now she's not even at home. Her mom and her mom's boyfriend are having a baby, and it's due July 29. Her mom has moved into his house for the time being until the baby is due, and my girlfriend gets horrible cell reception out there. Also I don't even know where he lives, so I feel as though the only way I am able to talk to her is if we're online at the same time.

On top of that, roughly a month ago I quit a decent job actually. Despite my boss being a b***h and treating us all like crap, the hours were okay, and the pay was decent. It was a 3rd shift position at a Meijer (for those of you not from the midwest, Meijer is similar to Walmart or Target). I was stocking shelves. But after 2 weeks I couldn't take it as the position was supposed to be only 3 nights a week, 8 hours a night. But they had gave me 2 extra days that I really DID NOT want. On top of that, they just kept b**ching at me to go faster, faster. I was already going as fast as I could. One day I just couldn't take it anymore and I left on one of my breaks, and I never went back.

A week later, I was out with my girlfriend and my car broke down. I was really embarassed to say the least.

So now, I am without a job, and without a car, and I can't even go see my girlfriend because I don't know where she is. I just feel like running away, but I have no where to run to, and I have a fear of falling asleep in public places. I want to just sleep forever, but then on the chance that my girlfriend does get online, I won't be able to talk to her, and she'll probably see it as "oh he doesn't care about me anymore" when I really really do care about her. I would walk the roughly 17 miles to her house if i had the time.

I guess it's just that money seems to be the big issue. I had it, now I have none if it all, and it's getting to me. I can't do anything right.

First off, you have a lot to contribute. We, as people with Asperger's, it just takes us a while to find places and situations where we can contribute. Okay, maybe if you told your girlfriend that some days you feel wiped out/ need to roam/ need to do your own thing. And if you have a bad couple of hours, just let it be a bad couple of hours, without any rule that it "should" spill over. It might, it might not. But no rule that it "should" Just let it be what it is.

Okay, it sounds like a pretty bad job. And I would further guess that the managers did not have skin in the game, at least not in this regard. That it had been a while since they had done the unpacking and shelving, so they didn't really have an immediate idea of how long it takes.

Okay, one tactic you may want to keep in mind for future jobs

'A family situation I have to take care of.'

'No, I can't tell you more than that. But it's something I have to take care of.'


Now, be advised that this is half-quiting and it may turn into full quitting. It's definitely taking a risk. But, it may be a risk worth taking. If it works, it can buy you some valuable breathing space.

And it is a lie. I'm not going to argue that what I'm suggesting is not really a lie. It is. But it's not lying to someone you have a close relationship. They've been unreasonable, so it's kind of a lie of self-defense. And by staying vague, it's somewhat more acceptable than a specific lie. At least it feels that way to me.

This is a tactic I wish I would have known when I was younger. So I am giving it to you.