Parents at it again...

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I've been wondering how common it is for parents to try & set up their aspie/autie kids w/ either other apies or just random socially awkward kids around their same age that they know through siblings, etc? (I'm referring to both dates & friends)

well, my dad's girlfriend pointed me towards the aspieaffection.com site.
that's the closest anyone's ever really came to setting me up per se.

ironically though, i accidentally found my aspie GF through a random add on myspace

I've read a lot of blogs by parents of autistics who try to set their kids up cuz they are worried about their kids not having friends & when the kids become adults the parents may want em to find a relationship because the parents are worried about the autistic being alone & to dependent on em. My mom tried setting me up on play-dates when I was very little but I had so many problems she quit it after a while & I'm glad. My mom has also talked about setting me up on a date but I'm not sure how many people she tried. She hasn't really talked to me about it but it doesn't matter because unless it's something where the women have no choice in it; no woman will agree to go out with me. I'm the black_plague to women

My parents haven't tried that trick on me, yet. It makes me feel lucky.

I'm trying to avoid being set up b/c it turns out my sister was in a class w/ a guy I was friends w/ in HS. & Now my one mom is convinced he's an undiagnosed aspie b/c he's shy/awkward & wants to drag me to the grocery store where he works just to try & get us to meet. (She's convinced I just haven't met the right guy yet even though I've said I'm asexual )

She mite think that your simply not interested in the sex but still want a relationship. Some asexuals want relationships; I do & I'm a borderline asexual

I kinda agree with you. But the thing is b/c I'm asexual I don't want to date anyone I know has sexual feelings (towards me or anyone else). I'd feel too guilty about going into a relationship with a permanent area of awkwardness b/c we wouldn't be able to give each other what the other needs. I pointed out that I wouldn't want to consider anything beyond friendship (which I had) with this guy & that's when my mom said she doesn't think I'm asexual (again ).