I give up.....

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No, this isn't one of those suicide threads, I'm not even close to being like that, I just feel like I should just stop holding on to my dreams of becoming a successful cartoonist and/or animator and just waste away while still living with my parents. I feel like I'm stuck here and stuck I shall remain for the rest of my life.

I've come to realize that it's pointless to hold onto my dreams. Just this week, I went classes for Adult Learning and as usual, nobody to help, and I wasted another day there. I'm now 19 and I still have yet to drive or get my license, and it seems like my parents don't even listen. It's like they still think I'm 12 years old or something.

I'm sick of looking at others with girlfriends and/or vice versa, and me still stuck in my same old lowly place in the pecking order. "What girl would even want me," I think to myself.

I'm sick of feeling like I go un-noticed, in public or otherwise.

I think sometime or another, I'm just going to take my artwork, every last drawing and painting, and throw it all in the garbage, and just give up altogether.

At least try to sell your work.

The very next day is when the New York Times will knock on your door and say,
"Hey I heard you are pretty good, let's see what else you've got."

Change and the fear of it can be overwhelming at times, and sometimes just downright distracting.
I have never seen seen any of your work, but chances are that if you enjoy it, then you're good at it.
The stuff that you have learned and continue to learn will continue with you, but not without you.
And Seriously, don't be so hard on yourself, there are plenty of thoughts, emotions and ideas to play with.
Some of them are going to be good and some bad true, just beware when a couple of the bad ones gang up and throw a party.
Be your creative self, try to use them to your advantage to portray something or somebody else.

Seriously? Ummm... you're 19. That's way too young to give up on anything except breast-feeding and riding a bike with training wheels.

Here's an excerpt from Matt Groening's bio from Wikipedia and may not be accurate:
In 1977, at the age of 23, Groening moved to Los Angeles to become a writer. He went through what he described as "a series of lousy jobs," including being an extra in the film When Every Day Was the Fourth of July, bussing tables, washing dishes at a nursing home, landscaping in a sewage treatment plant, and chauffeuring and ghostwriting for a retired Western director.

The Simpsons was first shown in 1987. He was 33 by then. I find it helpful sometimes to read that really successful people had struggles but didn't give up and that's why they made it.

Few things happen overnight and they things that do are mostly destructive like disasters, deaths, and burglaries. Everything else takes time.

Get Adobe Flash. Take a class or buy a book on Flash animation. Get a youtube account, and post your cartoons. If you post them, people will watch.



What exactly is it that you want help for?




Typical of people with AS. To fix it, go to the DMV, get the driver's handbook, read it, try to find some online practice tests for your state and take them. Return the DMV, take the written test. If you pass it you will get your learners permit. If not, go back, study more, then try again. When you get your learners permit you can have one of your parents take you driving or go to a driving school. When you feel ready you can take the driving test and get your license.


Really? I'm sick of looking at others with boyfriends/husbands. In fact just today I saw some lady's husband and wished her were my husband. I wanted to ask her how she got a husband like that, as she didn't look much different than me, but I suppose that would have been socially inappropriate.

Why don't you just start asking girls out? One will eventually say yes.



This is your fault. You are not born with a rank on your chest telling everyone you are the bottom of the social latter. You have to advertise this information one way or another. NT's aren't psychic.


None, with that attitude. But attitudes can change. Looks can also change somewhat. If you post a photo I'm sure people here would give you some advice if you are lacking in the marketability area.



I'm surprised how many people complain about this when they infact do everything possible not to be noticed, such as not speaking up, talking to people, saying hello...etc. They just expect that everyone should notice them and start talking to them. That's not really fair to expect others to do this if you're being a wallflower.




You could do that. I did that once. Someone took it out of the trash, sold it as their own, and got sh!t rich. I can't prove it so sucks for me.

Here's a Sid hug. :O)

Keep drawing if you are a 2D animator or punching away on your computer if your a computer animator practise equals talent. It also builds up a pretty good show reel that could get you in a good school or a job. You might want to also take some other courses unrelated to animation when in school you might have to fall back on alternative job skills durring a dry spell in your animation career. Don't give up on your dreams you will regret it when your 40 and living with your family. Trust me on that.

When my son was 10 he wanted to be an artist ( drawing looked like a 5 year old), at 15-20 he wanted to be a cartoonist (tuft field too - drawings got better) . He then announced he wanted to be a sculptor (mom rolls eye and thinks 'ya, there is a livable income). Then he found glass blowing, combining a form of sculpture and some income.
Now, he is taking care of his family with glass blowing and although not much money, at least they have the basics. Plus with medical marijuana legalized here he has more opportunities to sell more glass.

You never know, don't burn any bridges unless you know the consequences.
Keep your options open. I was 54 when I found what I wanted to do that made me happy.

I usually go there for math. I couldn't do math to save my life.



Because chances are they would probably think of me like they did back when I was still in school, weird and ugly. It doesn't help that back then, girls would come up to me and flirt with me as a joke. When they weren't doing that, they acted like I had a debilitating disease. Kind of doesn't help that I'm a bit big around the waist and neck, as well.

I would show off my drawings and paintings, but, being the idiot I am, I don't even know how to do that.

@Pistonhead: I would, but there's nobody in this dead-end, one-horse hick town that would want to buy anything from me.

I sometimes feel my dreams fleeting. I figure no road is worth traveling if it isn't rocky. Good luck, Aspie.

Bro, there's a huge world for animations and drawing when it come to computer graphics.

Thanks for the advice, everyone. It kind of helps. But the thought of me never succeeding at anything still lingers.

I'm still considering trashing my drawings and cartoons, nobody I know really likes them. The knowledge that no girl would ever like me also hangs over me, heck, I've never even had one as a friend.

Keep doing what you love to do. Our states are close to eachother, so I understand the feeling that you're stuck in hick country. Maybe we'll make it out of here someday, Aspie.