i hate my mm and my brother cant wait to get away from them

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he's only 17 and he has a lock for his room when i was his age i was never allowed a lock on my door apparent fire hazard! my clothes and my boys clothes are in the cupboard in his room and now im having to sit here at 2.30pm with my pjs on til he comes back cos he's locked his stupid door and i cant get my clothes!! ! i cant even go out or anything and he wont leave the key here cos he doesnt trust me all that he has in his room is a laptop i have my ow i dnt want to touch his stupid laptop and then he eaves his ps3 which i bought him in the livingroom but will lock the controllers for the console in his room so no one can play it hes such a child im so sick of him and my mum for letting him do that to me and my boys and she shouted and bawled at me at that age when i wanted a lock on my door to keep him out so he didnt break my stuff and she made it my fault i hate them both so much and i want to kick that stupid door down!!

Move out, that's what I'm going to do.

I am as soon as I can x

God Kizzykat, that sounds like an absolute nightmare..

I second KaiG: move out as soon as you can. It's the only way to get rid of the frustration and memories(out of sight, out of mind).

Until then, a couple of suggestions:

1. when your sob brother gets back home, swoop in and get all your clothes and belongings. Put them in a bin liner in the corridor if you have to. You can buy fabric collapsable wardrobes from some shops; they might be a good temporary solution.

2. or, get ahold of the key by hook or by crook and get it copied. I'm totally against key-copying in the vast majority of cases, but if you and your son are hanging around whilst Lord Fauntleroy dictates when you can get dressed, I think it's a pretty fair exception to the rule.

3. take back your playstation. Yes, technically you may have given it to him, but since he's acting like a jerk, so can you. Give it to someone you trust for safe keeping and tell him you sold it.

4. if you feel brave enough, walk with your son to your brother's school in your pajamas and ask for the key. Eitehr approach him directly or ask the principal to make an announcement.

5.Get mad. Get outraged. Demand your mum give you a set of keys or find somewhere else for your clothes. It's not right that her daughter or her grandchild have to sit around all day in their night clothes because the uncle gets to dictate when they get to put on clothes!

As for the difference in rules, from what I've hear, all younger siblings get it better (in the vast majority of situations). The resentment is natural, but there's not a lot you can do about it.

In part, it's due to external events (parents maybe getting a better job etc) but I think it's also due to the fact that as people, your own parents' views have changed as well.

The media has a lot to do with that I think; it used too be 'never let your child have a lock on their room' so all Good Parents didnt. Now it's 'give your child their privacy' so they follow that tune now.

Also, I think, parents get lazy/worn out as they get older. They literally stop caring as much about what the kids do and find it easier to just give in. With tabloid citations about why this is a Good Parenting Move of course.

Basically, it's pointless to waste your time resenting the inequality. If your brother had a younger sibling, he'd be complaining about the 'unfairness' too (mine does ). You have every right to be bitter as hell, but it's not going to change anything so no point wasting your time.

But yeah, move at as soon as you can. This sounds like a total headache. I'm angry on your behalf!