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lotusblossom wrote:
I really dislike my life Im very unhappy. I dont know how to make it better though. I feel so constrained by my responsibilities and unable to enjoy things or change myself. I feel stuck in a deep dark pit unable to climb out or find an escape.
Ive given up my university courses as Im in no state to do them as Im so stressed and dispairing and cant concentrate or feel motivated. It just all seems so horrible and I cant find anything which is nice or makes things better.
I have no friends and poor relationships with my family, the only person I see is my social worker. when I think of trying to go to things to meet people I just feel sick and awful, when I have been to things it made me feel awful and full of self hatred anmd I dont want to make myself feel worse I want to feel better. I dont know how I can enjoy life when everything makes me feel awful, I cant think of what to do to make things better.
I know people dont like me because of who I am or how I am but I dont know how to change, I try to change but it doesnt work. I dont know what to do.
Ive given up my university courses as Im in no state to do them as Im so stressed and dispairing and cant concentrate or feel motivated. It just all seems so horrible and I cant find anything which is nice or makes things better.
I have no friends and poor relationships with my family, the only person I see is my social worker. when I think of trying to go to things to meet people I just feel sick and awful, when I have been to things it made me feel awful and full of self hatred anmd I dont want to make myself feel worse I want to feel better. I dont know how I can enjoy life when everything makes me feel awful, I cant think of what to do to make things better.
I know people dont like me because of who I am or how I am but I dont know how to change, I try to change but it doesnt work. I dont know what to do.
Feeling as though you are in despair is a bad emotional time that can sometimes felt by people with Asperger's. I wish you all the best. *Hug*
You can send me a PM any time.
I will try my best to help you. ^^
I am sorry about university troubles. I had problems with my old college at times.
I will talk to you any time you wish if you would like to. *Hug*
You say you live in the midlands. ^^
Can you drive?
There is a social group for people with Asperger's and Autism which I attend called Autonomy, and it is based in Shropshire, and events are held in Shrewsbury mainly and sometimes in Telford.
If accessable to you, it would definitely be beneficial and worth attending these meetings. ^^
There is a very helpful lady by the name of Sara who founded and runs the group - she is a hard working activist for people with Asperger's and Autism, and she is officially an Asperger worker infact.
All the best. Life will get better, and I hope all the best for you lotusblossom.
*Hug*
21 Jul 2010, 4:14 pm
21 Jul 2010, 4:20 pm
samtoo wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
I really dislike my life Im very unhappy. I dont know how to make it better though. I feel so constrained by my responsibilities and unable to enjoy things or change myself. I feel stuck in a deep dark pit unable to climb out or find an escape.
Ive given up my university courses as Im in no state to do them as Im so stressed and dispairing and cant concentrate or feel motivated. It just all seems so horrible and I cant find anything which is nice or makes things better.
I have no friends and poor relationships with my family, the only person I see is my social worker. when I think of trying to go to things to meet people I just feel sick and awful, when I have been to things it made me feel awful and full of self hatred anmd I dont want to make myself feel worse I want to feel better. I dont know how I can enjoy life when everything makes me feel awful, I cant think of what to do to make things better.
I know people dont like me because of who I am or how I am but I dont know how to change, I try to change but it doesnt work. I dont know what to do.
Ive given up my university courses as Im in no state to do them as Im so stressed and dispairing and cant concentrate or feel motivated. It just all seems so horrible and I cant find anything which is nice or makes things better.
I have no friends and poor relationships with my family, the only person I see is my social worker. when I think of trying to go to things to meet people I just feel sick and awful, when I have been to things it made me feel awful and full of self hatred anmd I dont want to make myself feel worse I want to feel better. I dont know how I can enjoy life when everything makes me feel awful, I cant think of what to do to make things better.
I know people dont like me because of who I am or how I am but I dont know how to change, I try to change but it doesnt work. I dont know what to do.
Feeling as though you are in despair is a bad emotional time that can sometimes felt by people with Asperger's. I wish you all the best. *Hug*
You can send me a PM any time.
I will try my best to help you. ^^I am sorry about university troubles. I had problems with my old college at times.
I will talk to you any time you wish if you would like to. *Hug*
You say you live in the midlands. ^^
Can you drive?
There is a social group for people with Asperger's and Autism which I attend called Autonomy, and it is based in Shropshire, and events are held in Shrewsbury mainly and sometimes in Telford.
If accessable to you, it would definitely be beneficial and worth attending these meetings. ^^
There is a very helpful lady by the name of Sara who founded and runs the group - she is a hard working activist for people with Asperger's and Autism, and she is officially an Asperger worker infact. All the best. Life will get better, and I hope all the best for you lotusblossom.
*Hug*thanks Samtoo, that is a kind offer.
Unfortunately Im not good at pming or meet ups.
I tried some aspie meet ups but they did not go well for me and I left feeling more misunderstood and down on myself. I find it hard to cope with the inevitable criticisms people make and lash myself with self hatred.
Im glad the shropshire group has been good for you though.
21 Jul 2010, 4:44 pm
The people part of the social group are very friendly and will understand a lot of what you feel I am sure. No one would be harsh and no one would criticize you. Sara is brilliant at motivating people too. ^^
If you would ever like to attend the events, or get in contact with Sara, then I can help you.
All the best to you, and I hope you feel much better very soon. ^^ *Hug*
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21 Jul 2010, 6:08 pm
Sorry you are so beset with anxiety. Here's a flower for you! 
21 Jul 2010, 6:23 pm
Take control. Become aware of your thoughts as they happen, and come to realise that thinking negatively doesn't solve anything.
Seeking help is a good idea, but won't fix it alone. A therapist or doctor can help a great deal, but in the end you have to make the changes yourself.
Go out of your way to do something you enjoy, it's easy to forget to enjoy life.
Be awesome. 
22 Jul 2010, 2:48 am
hartzofspace wrote:
Sorry you are so beset with anxiety. Here's a flower for you!
thank you for the flower
22 Jul 2010, 2:54 am
Asmodeus wrote:
Take control. Become aware of your thoughts as they happen, and come to realise that thinking negatively doesn't solve anything.
Seeking help is a good idea, but won't fix it alone. A therapist or doctor can help a great deal, but in the end you have to make the changes yourself.
Go out of your way to do something you enjoy, it's easy to forget to enjoy life.
Be awesome.
Seeking help is a good idea, but won't fix it alone. A therapist or doctor can help a great deal, but in the end you have to make the changes yourself.
Go out of your way to do something you enjoy, it's easy to forget to enjoy life.
Be awesome.
thats the trouble, I cant think of things I enjoy to add in to my life. Most things they suggest in books to try are things that I hate such as phoneing someone, and I dont like any of the things I used to like. For example I used to like painting but now it makes me feel sick and rubbish, I used to like studying but now I feel stupid and awful when I try. A lot of the other things I liked doing makes me think of my ex bf as we used to do them together and makes me more sad.
Im going to use this time until october when i dont have to study anymore to really work on myself and read all the self help books I bought but did not read, I have a stack of perfectionism books and stress books Ive only flicked through, thats bound to help.
I wish I could think of what would make me happy and how I could make my life enjoyable, I just dont like anything any more its all colourless and painful.
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