My parents pathological have a knack for hurting me.

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My parents pathological have a knack for hurting me. I needed them to protect me and they always do the opposite. my father is a liar and blows up at anything, my mother is a histronic who is incapable of knowing truth. they both readily believe anything that they hear except when it comes from me.

the dx was way for them to get me. they had to take care of me rather than teach me how live(i was more than capable of learning) they wanted a child and hated me trying grow up and mistook it for being being bad behavior). It was about controll not love.

they have done everything possible to sabotoge me having a good life. what they believed they were doing something else entirely

they are encapable of making good decisions for me.

my mom lied threw me in a ward,(just as i was starting recover from all the crud i was putt on were i was medicated with risperdal wich gave me a siezure.
they put me on way too much depokoate to cover thier buts, wich stoned me out my skull.

im worried about what might happen if the social services were to be invovled

being as give them the right to do anything.
when it was the reverse

A friend of mine is in a similar situation: Her parents have a knack for psychologically hurting her. Her way of dealing with the problem was to leave the country permanently! Now she lives and works far away from her parents, a different continent even, and has only a small amount of contact with them, and is much happier. Perhaps an extreme solution, but she felt she had to do it, and is happy as a result, so...

I split from my parents for a long time, even went on the streets. It was really hard, but I stared to see how my mother, being not a good mother, was really trying the only way she knew how to make things work. Is there anyway for you to try to see thier behavior in a brighter light and try to reason with them. Can you trade some respect around the house for keeping your own behavior a little more restrained? Maybe you will be able to stay with someone esle or make it on your own for a while.

and I guess this is how a double post looks. sorry.

Hyperion I can see how cruel people can be and how your parents can be. Maybe you don't need to live there anymore. Get out when you can or your be up to your eye balls with a lot of legal issues. Your parents want you to be a child and I don't think that's right. They can't force you to be young again. Try moving out and living with some else either a relative or a very close friend. I don't think you should be staying there much longer.

In case anyone is interested, I have a "Loving Your Parents" thread in the General Autism Discussion forum (formerly General Discussion). It debates the issue of how parental love and punishment fit together.

But to stay on topic, I'd say that my parents constantly hurt me out of negligence, rather than out of malice. They grew up during times when children were second-class citizens at best. Since that's the treatment they got, it's the only one they know. However, it doesn't excuse the way they treated me. Although I should give them credit for providing the material things in my life, I pretty much had to raise myself when it came to emotional stuff; my parents believe that emotions of any kind (even affection) are sign of weakness, and should be kept to oneself. I'll stop ranting and raving; better details are available in the thread I mentioned earlier.