issues with a friend and how to handle it

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I am close to a friend of mine we are both female and close but are friends and thats all. Anyway people have been thinking we are a "couple" so as a "joke" my friend keeps getting on top of me and once even pretended to have sex she is very young for her age more like 14 or 15 than 23 and I understand she has asperger's as well so I let it go most of the time. My problem however is that I am not 100% if I am gay or asexual (apparently very common for aspies) and her doing this makes me feel both confused and uncomfortable because I don't like physical contact very much. I have long pondered and been confused about my sexuality and being asexual is the most likely but I am not 100% sure. I have told her not to do it and she does stop when I ask her to but then a couple of days later like aspies can do she has forgotten and tries similar things again. Any suggestions on how to handle this and also to know if you like someone just as a friend or more than that.

Hello Catster29,

Maybe your friend likes tight hugs?
And doesn't know how to ask for them.

So she plays silly to get them.
In a manner shown and "authorised" by a mainstream society.

You could tell her that if it's the case, it's alright - or not - for you but less often.
Or to find herself someone else who would like that as much as her?
And still be her friend of course.

Maybe you can surprise her, with a tight hug.