Board index › Coping in life › The Haven

feeling left out

Page 1 of 1 [ 2 posts ] 

Previous topic | Next topic

Catster29
Sea Gull
Sea Gull

User avatar

Joined: 18 Oct 2009
Age: 45
Gender: Female
Posts: 218

26 Sep 2010, 6:07 am

Ok well me and a friend are really close and she introduced me to her friend and for a while we all got along really well and lisa (the friend of a friend) wanted to talk on fb, meet up even if my other friend wasn't available etc. However lately Lisa has gone kind of cold on both of us but even colder on me she still wants to meet up with C. and messages her etc for me it seems to be all one sided. I have done nothing to her either that is the hurtful bit in fact I wrote to her tonight telling her I felt left out.



Chronos
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 22 Apr 2010
Age: 45
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,698

26 Sep 2010, 7:15 am

Catster29 wrote:
Ok well me and a friend are really close and she introduced me to her friend and for a while we all got along really well and lisa (the friend of a friend) wanted to talk on fb, meet up even if my other friend wasn't available etc. However lately Lisa has gone kind of cold on both of us but even colder on me she still wants to meet up with C. and messages her etc for me it seems to be all one sided. I have done nothing to her either that is the hurtful bit in fact I wrote to her tonight telling her I felt left out.


Perhaps Lisa is going through some difficult times in life. Perhaps she finds it tiring to deal with too many people (NT's get social fatigue as well). Perhaps she just wants to spend some time alone with your mutual friend. Perhaps she felt an incompatibility with you that was stressing her.

Hopefully she will shed some light on the matter for you.