KevinLA wrote:
I am at wits end with my neighbor.
The cliff notes of what initially sent me off is:
She came into my home drunk, called me an "idiot" multiple times for thinking something I had brought up to her before and pushed me twice while I was sitting on the couch.
I have ignored her for the past three months. She continues to wave at me when I drive by.
To make matters worse, I live with my mother who is the HOA treasurer and since my neighbor is head of the HOA she is always over at our place picking up checks.
She always says hi and I ignore her. Yesterday, I was minding my own business making salads while she was talking to my mother in the kitchen. She says to me:
"Kevin. Even though I know you don't want to talk to me any more, I am going to say hello."
She didn't SAY it in a mean spirited way. However, it still was a subconscious lack of respect towards me. I can't take it any more. Again, I ignored her.
I am considering asking my mother to embarrass her by telling her, "Kevin has made it clear he does not want to talk to you any more." I don't want my mother to tell her that I came to my her to resolve this.
The next time she says hello I feel like saying. "SHUT UP" (Insert derogatory word)!"
What should I do?
In some situations I think it's important to allow people to make amends. This is usually in situations in which the person is truly sorry and has expressed some sort of effort to avoid doing whatever they did again, and are sorry for the right reasons.
And also in situations where continuing to be mad is just creating needlessly emotionally draining or stressful situations.
So has she ever apologized to you? Has she taken steps to address her drinking problem?
12 Sep 2010, 8:04 pm
