Bothered by parent comments.

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I'm not sure if I've mention these things here before so sorry if yes but they've been really bugging me today. A few weeks prior mom/dad said "You haven't accomplished much in life we hope the girls (AKA sisters) don't end up like you!" Also a few months prior mom said "You don't mean what that says (AKA Mom plaque from Mother's Day) You just bought that just because!!" I've been thinking on these 2 comments and feel awful!! !! ! They are really bugging me today for some reason. I'm sorry if I've mention these specific parent comments before (I know I've mention past parent issues) it's just they've been bothering me for some reason. (sorry I tend to repeat myself IRL and the web here LOL!) As I mention in 2 WP friend PM's perhaps a videogame/show/school work will get my mind off this. the Ethics class is HARD so I really HATE to get back into that book LOL! Although getting Test 1 done so I can focus on Health Test 1 would be good. LOL! Thanks for listening.

Those are both very emotionally abusive things to say, whether they intended to or not. We depend on our parents so much when we're younger it's hard not to take everything they say about us as the gospel truth. They are not likely to change but you can try and change how you react to these kinds of comments. I'm not saying it's easy. As a matter of fact it's got to be flipping hard. I wish your parents could realize how much damage talk like that will do. I also think you would be a lot happier out of the house.

Teach her how you felt. Next mother's day don't buy anything.
When someone asks why you didn't, repeat the quote.
Until then, just realize your mother doesn't understand anything about your diagnosis. She's probably read "lack of empathy" far too many times in her research, without an proper understanding - it's a very controversial and unclear statement that shows up in every conversation about ASD.

That's IT EXACTLY!! You were raised by mom/dad so these hurtful comments aswell as ones against me getting into Psychology or my school obsession make me think "Ok maybe they are right." Instead of coping and defending from myself. With life they've implanted this negative view of what if you mess up again etc. So you FEEL OMG what if they are right and I DO MESS up again!! ! etc. That makes ALOT of since and fits my family issues perfectly you want to believe in what your parents say. THEY raised you surely they have the best intentions for you (or so they say)

Sorry to quote yet another of my posts in this topic. Sadly no my parents don't understand AS although as I've stated here/parent board I highly suspect the 8 year old of having it. The most my mom has done is found a paper my sister printed that described the disorder and told me " Your sister found this she think it fits you." At first I was reluctant as I'm sure other WPers were what's AS this isn't me What the Hell!! !! etc.

Over the years of WP and dealing with life and a Psychiatrist who said yes (mainly just agreeing with me he didn't do no dozen tests or anything.) But hey agreeing with me IMO is fine and I take that as official diagnosis IMO. After having a galbladder surgery mom mention she didn't think I was Bipolar 2 but something else I mention AS she said ya probably that. I don't want to go through the State Red Tape SSI stuff to get it changed. Don't worry with a good paying job a psychology degree/background I can get off it but until then I don't want to battle the legal struggles.

My older sister who found the disorder understands some of the traits thankfully a lot more caring over them than my mom is. She jokingly called it Brandy Syndrome or Geek Syndrome in NY LOL! and understood (as I've stated before) my 9/11 reaction was different which is fine (just don't go blabbing out loud around NY you'll get us killed LOL!) So she's very understanding (even rambling on bills through an e-mail last night I said sorry for rambling she said that's fine. So she understands most of the trait issues. Thankfully.

My dad is the same way. No metter what I talk to him about he always end up with a smartass comment about me not finding a job. I then wrote that on FB and he gave me a smartass comment to get a job and GTFO.