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19 Sep 2010, 8:13 pm

So as I've mentored in another thread on the site, I'm only mildly AS, but predominantly I'm ABI(acquired brain injury).

How I acquired my brain injury was from falling out of the car of my deceased grandmother when I was a toddler because I wasn't in a proper car seat and the car door was unlocked/was unequipped with the proper child safety lock mechs.

So knowing this info my question is should I be holding the way I am(from a neurological standpoint) now, twenty-three and a half years(I was one and a half at the time of the accident and will shortly be 25) after the accident and fifteen years after her passing, against my grandmother/blaming my condition on her?


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20 Sep 2010, 11:36 pm

LostInBed wrote:
So as I've mentored in another thread on the site, I'm only mildly AS, but predominantly I'm ABI(acquired brain injury).

How I acquired my brain injury was from falling out of the car of my deceased grandmother when I was a toddler because I wasn't in a proper car seat and the car door was unlocked/was unequipped with the proper child safety lock mechs.

So knowing this info my question is should I be holding the way I am(from a neurological standpoint) now, twenty-three and a half years(I was one and a half at the time of the accident and will shortly be 25) after the accident and fifteen years after her passing, against my grandmother/blaming my condition on her?


Sound's like it was just an accident, was she the Primary caregiver when this happened or was she just baby siting, if it's the first than maybe , if it the second i think not. But ultimately is up to you.


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21 Sep 2010, 2:24 am

Ultimately no good comes from blaming someone. I know you want to but there are other ways to look at it, as I'm sure you know, like you could have died, etc. Holding onto guilt doesn't help. She was a dumbass but you can't let it destroy you. Be the superior being and even forgive her for doing it and you will become stronger.