looking for advice neighbour and family problems

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For background please refer to neighbour problems also posted by me.

If I had my time over being aspie and likely to give away too much information I would not have got to know my neighbours at all other than to say hello that way as my friend with an autistic daughter says you can't give away too much information, can't get involved in anything nasty and life is more peaceful but if it is an emergency you do have someone to call on. Anyway James and Michael have taken to staring at my friend (who now lives here) and I daily for the last 6 months everytime we reverse our cars or come outside (I currently have no front fence but are looking to get one). This was exacerbated by my friend running into someone's car at one of James parties as well as all the BS Michael has been feeding him about me. I was advised by family to talk to James wife Jane in a nice way as I did today and asking her to please help calm the situation. However that did not work all she did was say it wasn't her problem and went and got James who basically flat out denied it and said words to the effect of "you deserve it given everything that has happened you brought it on yourself". We might be aspie but we aren't stupid there are two of us and also mail was going missing so I had to get a PO box, my tyre got let down things like that. Michael once said to me "I do things so it looks like it is kids and so it is tough to prove" that is exactly what is going on here. I am sorry I got involved, I aM SORRY for what happened with Tina and Chloe is sorry she ran into someone but all that aside we deserve to live in peace and not be harassed, have mail stolen etc. I am basically looking for advice. Also just to add a bit after all this happened I went out to put something in the bin James was there staring I pretended I didn't see him and went inside. Then a bit later I went out the car and James agressively said "yeah I am moving my car so you and your f***ing stupid mate don't run into it" I replied yelling "what we do with our cars is our business just leave us alone" and he then called me a "f***ing loser". I know I shouldn't have reacted to him in the first place but it is tough not to. I just wish my parents hadn't tried to encourage me to get to know my neighbours or organised my housewarming party mum has always tried that to "matchmake" friends but all it does is make it worse I would rather have no friends than what happens in that case.

Today my stepdad told my mum what has happened and she rang me up accusing us of harassing James and abusing me saying it was my fault my fault that i got involved with Michael, my fault James was yelling abuse etc I am very very upset. i have witnesses we have done nothing wrong James is harrasing us we have not harassed him in any WAY and he is yelling abuse we did not go onto his property at all and simply asked politely for him to leave us alone. i accept what happened with Tina was wrong but that was a mistake and would never do it again or get to kbow my neighbours given what i now know about myself. Sandra across the road saw michael take something she wasnt sure what from my letterbox. Mary-ann next door has also heard J and M harassing us she told us she knows we we are not at fault except for what we have admitted. I did not know James was there when we talked to jane but it probably wouldn't have made a difference anyway she wasnt very friendly. People have accidents all the time and chloe didn't even hit james himself but a friend that doesn't mean she or I deserve harassment. michael has no case against me it is his word against mine (the lawyer and angela said that).. As i said it does not matter how long ago things happened they were wrong regardless and are upsetting. Michael took advantage of my vulnerability and loneliness and of course i regret it. However we have done what we thought was right to try and make piece you do not live here we do AND HAVE A RIGHT TO IN PIECE. We do not want to move what we want is understanding, support and a fence. Staring is haRASSMENT I HAVE Sought asvice and i did tell angela everything including what happened with tina and she says that is irrelivent as i am no longer in the wrong and have admitted it on a stat dec which actually holds no weight given the circumstances aND my AS.