Sigh. I HATE being fat.

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And it's all because of the medication, and the stress of living at home. I am super obese, 320 lbs on a 5'8" white male, and my grandfather died of diabetes and I'm at risk, so I really need to lose it. For a long time I felt compelled to gorge myself with junk food, I think it was the medication that I take and being lonely, and starting in 2004 I gained like 60 lbs, I was 260 before which is fat but not morbid, and now I just look ugly and feel awful. There's several women on OK Cupid that I think I would get along with, but they specify only height weight proportionate men, and I'm not.

I will sign up for a cheap gym when my check comes in. I hate having all this fat on me, I feel like I'm swimming in it, I have so much fat under my chin that I can't lay my chin on my chest, and I have a giant belly that looks ugly. Most women don't want fat men, which it's obvious why, but that doesn't do me any good. I do plan on losing it, but I've got another week until I can sign up for the gym.

I look at pix of myself and I look like Jabba the Hutt, no joke I really do. It feels as bad as it looks, believe me. I can't climb a flight of stairs without having five minutes to catch my breath. I can't believe I've allowed myself to get into this state, where I can't walk a hundred feet without getting winded. It's all due to medication, I take Risperdal so I gained a lot of weight. I eat a lot better now, so all I need is the exercise.

Halfway there!

May you be healthy and happy.

I am two inches taller and never quite got to 300, but I definitely know how you feel.

"Fear of death", as such, used to be on my mind a lot.


A heart attack at 49 drove me completely away from junk food, but I do still lean toward certain "comfort foods" (such as ice cream) I happen like.


The one you will eventually find will take notice of your overall health, yet she might also enjoy being "smothered", figuratively speaking, by her very own special "Teddy bear".


Swimming at the "Y", if you have one nearby and you can swim, might cost less and actually give you a better workout overall ... and there would likely also be exercise and handball courts there.


I used to hate not being able to see myself pee.


Git 'er done, my fellow!

Start slow and increase the intensity of your workout by 5%, each month to begin with. Working with weights will also tone the flabby areas. Good luck!

I'm two inches shorter than you and used to weigh 350. Right now I weigh 240.

My ultimate goal is to have my weight be a lower number than my I.Q. (LOL) I'm also hoping to get my moring glucose number down even lower, to a normal level. It really does seem to be affected by my weight, so I think it's do-able.

While you're waiting for the check to come in, start moving now by doing a little walking. Not huge amounts - just whatever you can do. Like to the end of the block and back, for example. When I first started exercising, my day's exercise was to walk around the block (that's app. 1/3 mile) even though I had to sit down and rest seven or eight times on the way around. I've only used walking as my exercise and right now I walk a mile every day, 2-3 miles at least one day a week, and 5 miles about once a month.

When you do get the gym membership, try to find as many exercises as you can that don't put too much pounding weight on your feet. Partway through my weight loss journey I got plantar fasciitis from all the walking while weighing too much. At the worst of the fasciitis, I couldn't walk at all and even had to crawl from the bed to the bathroom and then back to bed because my feet hurt so much . . .and that's after the podiatrist did the taping and injections and everything. It's because of my memories of the fasciitis that I haven't taken up running, even though I've lost enough weight now to be able to handle it otherwise. I am very careful about how much pounding my feet get while I've still got so much weight on me!

And, yeah, about having a partner while you're big. There are women out there who would love you as you are right now. The hard part is finding and connecting with them. I was engaged to a man your size about 17 years ago (he died of a heart attack) and I'm currently partnered to a man who's even bigger than you are. And lest you think I'm someone who only goes for big guys, I also dated a guy who was so skinny all his joints stood out like big knobs. For me (and for many sensitive, loving women) it's not about size. Don't give up on love or tell yourself that you will only be loved if you are thin. There *are* people out there who love a person for who they are, not for how much they weigh. Like I say, the hard part is finding the right one . . .but that's a dificulty nearly *everyone* faces at some point in their life, regardless of size or neurology.

Hang in there and keep up the good work on your health! Keep your eyes on the prize!

Yeah, I'm 5'4" and 240 pounds so I know how it is to be struggling with weight. Medications screwed up my weight big time. I've been fat for years and have never been able to shake it. I probably will do better once I'm out of college, since I'll be cooking everything at that point.

Yep joining a gym is a start and I would lay off the junk food and change your eating habits.

good luck and make it a "just for today" [and repeat this mantra each day] kind of thing. just take it one day at a time, make no long range goals which only invites will-sapping disappointment. i'm praying for you.

Sorry to hear that. Yeah I know what you mean, I've gained a little weight but not much. I stay completely away from pop and starches. Like you I'm also isolated and with no one to talk to except on this board.

I think it's great for you to go to a gym and everything. However I wonder though if overeating doesn't stem from emotional issues. I know I have them and have vented them through drinking recently. You might want to start with the emotions first. Too bad there isn't a lot of support groups for people like us.

I wish u all the best.

I want to get myself back down to 175 lbs. That was the weight that I was, before I moved out of the family home, 4 years ago last week.

This jumped out at me. That stuff is infamous for causing serious weight gain. I hope you are able to get off it soon, maybe findd something with less alarming side effects. Abilify? The weight gain that is caused by Risperdal is a side effect I think the doctors just don't take seriously enough.

In any case, whether you can get off it and switch to something else or not, going to the gym is always a good thing.

I also struggle with my weight. I have recently found out about Marisa Peer http://www.marisapeer.com/ and bought her hypnotism audio book cd 'you can be thin', its very good. I have copied down the dietry information and affirmations and tips and listen to the hypnotism session every day and its made such a difference to me. Before I would think about food all day and have to use a lot of will power to not over eat, but sice getting this cd I dont think about food much and dont fancy 'fatty/sugary' food any more so things have been much better. Its like the Alan Carr 'easy way to give up smoking', but for food.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/You-Can-Thin-Pr ... 135&sr=8-5

you might be able to download it free off the pirate download sites.

I also am stuggle with my weight. I do try to eat right but my mother is always coming home with junk food and soda. And I of course always end up comsuming that. Even when I tell her to stop bringing it home, she still does it. She is always like "Use willpower" or some kind of BS. I just don't have willpower. It's easier to just not have it around cause in order for me to eat right is that it has to be the only food in the house. So I'm tricking my mind into thinking that I have to eat it cause it's either that or I die of starvation.

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