I am so lonely

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I have never had any friends. I don't know why. And I don't know what to do!

I'm very physically ill right now, which doesn't help with making friends, and I don't have any friends in the first place to even visit me! I can barely walk, much less drive safely, so I can't even leave my house, which is also in a secluded neighborhood.

I'm just so depressed and lonely right now. And I won't have hardly any human contact tonight, since my parents are going to our bible study, and I can't go because I'm so sick!

I had to move back in with my parents back in August, and since I'm on SSI, and would only get $30.00 more a month for working a 20 hour week because of the way SSI works, I can't get my own place where I could be around other people. I applied, and they wanted my parents to cosign because of my income level. Understandably, they wouldn't since the last place I lived had bed bugs, and I had to move out prematurely and break my lease!

It's hard for me to be alone because of my 6 year depression. It sucks all the joy out of my life, and yet I have no idea what to do when I'm around other people either. I can't seem to find another interest, either.

But I'm sick of being alone.

Can anyone relate? I mean, I wanted to get my hair cut today, but I'm not even strong enough to get their on my own because of some illness that I've suffered with for nearly a month and keeps getting worse. My only close friend is my mother.

I just want to know what to do.

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^^Yaye greetings Gallygun. I am very sorry indeed that you are feeling unhappy.

^^ I believe I shall always be happy to speak with you upon the internet and I believe all members within WrongPlanet are very lovely also.

I am very sorry for your happy illness also. ^^ I believe that perhaps this is best that when thinking about bad matters surrounding you, is perhaps to analyse what you can change and what you cannot. For instance, as you are perhaps very ill at the moment, perhaps this is best to accept some of the limitations that are placed upon you because of this. Then, perhaps you may think of what you can do. ^^ For instance, I believe that you may always speak to happy members here.

^^ Also, may I please ask, have you perhaps visited a little human doctor to help with your illness? If not so, I believe this is best that you visit a happy little doctor as I am sure that they shall be very happy to help you.

^^ Ummmiiies, I am very sorry if this is silly of me Gallygun, however perhaps when you become very unhappy and know not which activities to complete, perhaps a little fun activity to complete is to write on a piece of paper. Perhaps just begin by writing anything - your feelings, what is making you feel unhappy, some desires, and then perhaps some imaginary matters. I believe this may be very fun as you may begin to be blessed by little stories or scenarios within your head. After a time, perhaps this may even provide you with ideas for activities.

I am very sorry if this is silly of me Gallygun and if I am not helpful for you.

Lonliness is tough. I live by myself and go through some days, like Saturdays when I don't go into work, where I have no human contact at all.

I'm glad you're reaching out and hope you're able to make friends on this site. I know it's not the same as having friends to visit you in person, but it is still helpful to have support from long-distance friends, too.

best wishes in ur recovery, Gallygun.

Best of wishes. Try picking up a hobby or something that other people do together or like to talk about. After you recover you may find it easier to make new friends. If people talk to you for the purpose of exchanging the information that you know and that they are already interested in it is a lot easier to socialize than trying to figure out what the other person is interested in and then trying from there to socialize about it. Sometimes this isn't the same as real friendship but it can turn into it, and it is a place to start if you have no friends. I blog and sometimes people comment on mine and I talk to them about my ideas on there. Just make sure you don't become emotionally dependent on people, that can be worse than having no friends, speaking from personal experience.

I can't really relate as far as your illness go's, but 17 and have bin home schooled since first grade and my nearest nabors live half a mile away an are 70.
*Awkward aspie hug

I can relate. I've never had any real friends either.

yeah im stuck on the friends thing too. while i was waiting for my to-go order tonight, an employee at the restaurant asked me if i followed a local basketball team as i just happened to be glancing at the tv screen with the team playing, i said no. and i knew once i said "no", there would be no more conversation. to meet a guy my age who is not so wrapped up in sports and wants to talk or do something else would sure be f*****g nice. oh yeah and i agree on not becoming emotionally dependent on people, most people dont care for that at all. and with women, it takes a lot of time and a lot of doing to even get to that point with a man.

i have been there many times, when all types of things just pile up on me, and i really have no one to vent to except my mother and sister. and thats when i become more aware and upset about not having friends, etc. it does suck and it makes me more anxious and angry about my situation but i always pull through eventually. best wishes for a fast recovery from your illness and as far as the friends thing, wp is better than anything.