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14 Nov 2010, 5:36 am

Lonely, nobody cares about me. I am close to nobody. I crave excitement but never leave the house. I am unable to go places and make friends without a friend with me, but I have no friends. Didnt find out I have aspergers until i was 22 and it is just now sinking in. I am completely stumped as to how to improve my life. All i can do is simply ask my horrible family to help, but that always turns out being a painful experience. I can't even keep myself entertained.

I'm out of ideas. Do any of you have one? I'm pretty sure I've heard them all, though/



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14 Nov 2010, 6:00 am

gumbygumby wrote:
Lonely, nobody cares about me. I am close to nobody. I crave excitement but never leave the house. I am unable to go places and make friends without a friend with me, but I have no friends. Didnt find out I have aspergers until i was 22 and it is just now sinking in. I am completely stumped as to how to improve my life. All i can do is simply ask my horrible family to help, but that always turns out being a painful experience. I can't even keep myself entertained.

I'm out of ideas. Do any of you have one? I'm pretty sure I've heard them all, though/


Well you need to get into a place where you can take the first step and meet people. Why can't you go alone? As soon as that question is answered you can work on resolving it :)



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14 Nov 2010, 7:28 am

Find a society for autism near you and ask them if they have an adult aspie's group. Even if they don't, you can ask if they have other adult aspies you can talk to. Nobody can understand you quite like we do.


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14 Nov 2010, 1:47 pm

gumbygumby wrote:
Lonely, nobody cares about me.

Try believing someone somewhere will, then try to gather some courage to go look for him or her.

gumbygumby wrote:
I crave excitement but never leave the house.

Let your search be a journey of learning with an excitement all its own.


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14 Nov 2010, 2:27 pm

I feel the same way you do. I am normal on the outside and so, so lonely on the inside.

I don't know what to do, either. I hope you get good advice from others.



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14 Nov 2010, 10:26 pm

gumbygumby wrote:
Lonely, nobody cares about me. I am close to nobody. I crave excitement but never leave the house. I am unable to go places and make friends without a friend with me, but I have no friends. Didnt find out I have aspergers until i was 22 and it is just now sinking in. I am completely stumped as to how to improve my life. All i can do is simply ask my horrible family to help, but that always turns out being a painful experience. I can't even keep myself entertained.

I'm out of ideas. Do any of you have one? I'm pretty sure I've heard them all, though/


First of all, don't buy into labels. No one can define who you are but yourself. Whatever they tell you they are, is just a projection in their mind that was projected onto them. You are the only one who knows your true identity. The more you dig and learn about yourself the more you will know, which will make you will learn to love yourself because you will see just how beautiful you are on the inside. The precious ones are the ones who are painfully aware that they are not like the others. You stand out.



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14 Nov 2010, 11:58 pm

Get a pet dog, take it for walks. See what you would need to do to get it labeled as a service animal. That way you can take it into stores, movie theaters and anywhere else you would like.



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18 Nov 2010, 3:42 am

I have a pet parrot that i love like a son, but it only loves me back to the extent a parrot is capable. To him, I'm just a butler, i think.



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18 Nov 2010, 11:12 am

That all suck Gumby. It's hard to interact when people don't understand you or your loneliness. People with Asperger's may understand. That's where I'd start.



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18 Nov 2010, 11:20 pm

going to a thanksgiving dinner next week with others in my psychology program. I'm going to be the only one with asperger's though >_<

What would be a good book about asperger's that i could get a family member for xmas? Not about raising kids or anything, something that will let them understand me.