Are you still trying to find yourself?

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I feel at times I let my family dictate me. I have an issue with them and force myself to change (such as not being as obsessive towards college work). Issues/arguments happen and I feel terrible and I can't believe I upset them once again!! Mentioning my interest of Psychology a few weeks ago mom strictly stated (as before) you aren't doing it in this house you are doing it in a dorm at the University!! ! I assured her yes I was but wish they'd support me more. So at times life is depressing questioning my behavior what's right/wrong etc. all based on my families views.

I wish I could be like other WP members hell even some of the so called Aspies from shows they don't let parents dictate who they are they say screw it and are themselves. I so so so so wish! I could do that. I wish I had the strength to do that!! ! but instead with issues/arguments I cowar in fear running off to my room in tears. I wish I was stronger. With the family issues I feel I am in turn still trying to find myself. (No offense) but surely I'll get 40,50+ age people here who are probably still trying to find out who they are which I feel is sad 40 or 50 something and you are still trying to find yourself. No offense but I hope that isn't my scenario. Overall though as said many times I wish I didn't let my family affect me so deeply.

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I think part of wisdom is realizing there is no set self to find. It is an ongoing search, lifelong, and very complex. and I have never been totally satisfied that what I have found is the entire answer. But this is not a negative thing. Growing and uncovering what makes you YOU is that sense of aha! and the continuing saga as the years roll on.

I am happy to report that at 56 I still have miles to go before I sleep for eternity.

Best wishes for 2011, ZP.

http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Parents-Ove ... 954&sr=8-1

Read it

Your family members have their own lives to do what they please with. Do what you please with yours in terms of pursing the career and lifestyle you want. That is your right.

WOW! I read a few pages (through the awesome page reading feature) and it seems like a great book. Plus I can put it on the Kindle App (on my new EVO phone) so I can read it alone without them freaking out. (I'll keep my views to myself since reading that perhaps my parents have a narsisitic personality since everything I say seems wrong (that fits my mom to a tee LOL!) Thanks.

I hope it helps

Sometimes I can't find myself. The first place I look is the mirror, and it hasn't failed me yet.

The trouble is that while I found myself, I have a much bigger challenge now trying to sort out the difference between who I know myself to be and who society will let me be. Not there's anything terribly wrong with me, just that barely anyone can relate....so....I have to figure out how much I can comfortably sell off and how much benefit I can get. New waves of information keep hitting me and I'm constantly forced to rethink what's acceptable for me to believe of myself in terms of my own fundamental traits and how I wish to define my own identity. I could be able to chance certain things and have it work out better, or, its just as likely that I could change absolutely anything I want and it would be a null result.

I think I have found myself. What I haven't quite found is the way to make a bridge between myself and the rest of reality.

No, I'm completely sure of my identity.

I'm at this stage myself.

At 18 you are going a lot faster than I am.

It involves one aspect of mind makeup. I always pretty much knew who I was but could not always get away with it - my wife went through some patches of taking in stuff from various others. She tells a story of someone from her college days who told her precisely that about herself.

Time comes when she figures out who. Being aware it is going on helps advance the process.

I've been sure of my identity, since the September of 2009.

I know who I am as a person but, as to what sort of person I've always wanted to be or meant to be? Well, that's an ongoing process of evolution and learning in a broad positive sense..